July 31, 2010
As many of you already know I have been hiding out for a week and attending to my wife and little princess after a routine ultrasound on 7/22/10 revealed that my son no longer had a heart beat. We as a family just needed some time to reflect and heal. Today is 7/30/10 and I am writing you this post from Starbucks in Henderson, Nevada. It’s 6:30am and I just got done working out with my friend Justin Blum (one of the top trainers in Las Vegas Area) As a matter of fact if you are in Las Vegas you should definitely call Justin for a workout. He kicked my A** all week. Justin’s phone number is 702-882-6871
Here are 10 Things I learned from this experience:
1. God always has the Master plan. Even though sometimes we don’t understand why some things happen. We can rest assured there is always a reason and only God knows the reason.
2. Society encourages us (especially men) to keep our feelings to ourselves and not talk about our problems and feelings to other people. I am here to tell you that, “That is bulls***.” Communication is the cornerstone of being a human. By communicating we reach out to the universe and get advise and feedback from others that can help us in time of need. All of you reading this post helped me tremendously in my time of need and I want to THANK YOU.
3. When you put yourself out there and ask for help you also open yourself up for criticism. That’s just a fact of life. It’s no different than when you play sports in front of a crowd. Someone always finds something to say about you. If Kobe Bryant has one bad night he will get criticized by a bunch of people who couldn’t make a basket if their life depended on it.
4. Some people are just skeptics and that’s just the way it is. They always think that there is a “hidden agenda” in everything. (my wife used to be like that). I can’t say that I blame them for being like that. In this day and age people are being manipulated on a daily basis and I can see why they think the way they do.
5. You can’t please everybody. If you try to please everybody then you won’t please no body. I mean look at some of the greatest leaders in the world. No matter how great they were, there were always a few who criticized them. Here are some examples: John Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi, and Mahmoud Ahmadinejad.
(OK that last one was to see if you are paying attention, lol, I like Jay Leno’s name for him he calls him Ahmadi “nut job”.) I am slowly getting my sense of humor back.
6. They say that if you have one true friend then you are already ahead of most people. I feel so blessed because I feel like I have over 700 true friends who commented and were there for me in time of need. Every comment felt like a huge hug and I THANK YOU.
7. Some people love you and some people don’t that’s just the way it is. Be yourself and don’t change for anyone. People can always tell a “fake” person vs “genuine” person. Being yourself means that from time to time you are going to pi** somebody off but that’s way better than trying to be someone that you’re not and coming off as a “fake”. Always keep it REAL.
8. When going through tough times don’t sit home and throw a pity party. It’s not healthy at all. I did that for a couple of days and found that I had a terrible attitude towards life and others. Instead I recommend empowerment activities such as yes you guessed it working out, reading, spending time with loved ones and just getting out of the house.
9. When you hurt your emotions become ultra “sensitive” and might prevent you from thinking too clearly. Never act or make decisions when you are in that “state of mind”. It’s OK to ask others for their opinion to guide you through when you are not thinking clearly.
Especially if they “man up” and apologize. No one is perfect and we ALL have made poor judgements. The key is learning from our mistakes and improve ourselves.
Speaking of forgiveness I forgive Isiah B for the comment he made and accept his apology. He showed a lot of character for admitting his wrong and apologizing. See Below