Was I Wrong? (Asking For Your Opinion)

Sam, I appreciate your willingness to share your life and experiences. Please don’t stop being you. God Bless you and your family. Jeff

I don’t think you used what happend for personal gain!! I think Isiah don’t know you very well to pass such kind of judgement.

But some of your friends and family follow your blog post.
First of all.

Second of all I know after my miscarriages I needed all the support I could get. I gained 70lbs because I didn’t have someone to help me. You would never use something like your loss for personal gain.

When tragedy strikes, believers of God and Christ are asked to share their tragedy for we are part of the same family. I would hope that as a believer I would be able to share and be comforted by other believers and non-believers.
Sam, I believe I know you to some extent. Although we are not the “best” of friends, we have spoken and I believe you are there for many of us as well and our own circumstances. May God bless you and your family.

We all support you thru good and bad times and of course this is a personal tragedy and know that your friends send prayers and support whether you are a business owner or not you in the long run you are wonderful Friends!

Never doubt what you express, give me his address and I would give him a peace of my mind…LOL! You know me….

Sam, I too am sorry for your loss. I can also understand Isiah’s comment. I love reading your blog but I too was a little surprised about your announcement. I think it was your ‘need’ to post and ask for people’s ‘help’ that threw some people off. You asked people to post on your blog about it and to be quite honest, it came off a bit odd to me. Wishing you the best during this difficult time,

Michael

Sam:

This came from a young person (under 30) I am sure. Some don’t understand the depth of tragedy and confusion when your child is sick, or …the worst happens. Some reach out and some people close up and want no one near them. Move to a higher level Sam; move closer to G-d. MEG

@Isiaih: Really? Showing your human side and reaching out (even to those with whom you might have never met face to face) is a bad thing? Showing a vulnerable side is unacceptable or somehow looked upon as a means to a monetary gain? Really? Wow.

@Sam: pay no mind.

HAHA, Sam, I read that post and started laughing. This person is in desperate need of some help. Don’t stress, because clearly he is.

You’ve helped out a lot of people including me in my time of need, glad to provide some comfort in your time. Viva La Sam!!!!

Sam. People’s perception and use of social media and why people use social media is questioned daily. Often is miscontrued. That response was totally (even if he was bitter enougn to think/feel it totally out of line and certainly can’t help in your healing process. Btw. It was the only way I would have heard about it!

Wow Sam, Isiah is a cold-hearted ass. I have no tolerance for those who kick others when they are down. In times of tragedy, you should reach out – and this is coming from a psychotherapist. Family and God are sometimes not enough; that’s why we have friends. You helped me so much a few years ago and I was glad that I could help you with supportive sentiments in your time of need. Some people feel that miscarriage is no big deal. Others believe that personal struggles should be kept personal. They are usually bitter, angry, and untrusting. When I reach out when I am in pain, I always learn something valuable. Sharing our pain helps others share theirs too. It is nice to know that we are not alone and maybe others can give us solid advice on how to get through difficult times.

My best to you and your wife.

One word to describe this guy: CRAB. Don’t let him pull you down to his level.
A simple “opt-out” would have showed a lot more class on his part than this response.
Best to you and your family, I and my family are always here for you.
Brett

Isiah’s comments were crude, unprofessional and just bad.

I never lost a child, but I can’t image the pain one goes through when one does lose a child. Reaching out to friends and even business associates is not untoward or unimagineable. Since you got so many positive messages in return, I think you should (a) take him off your email list and (b) not give him another thought – he’s not worth it.

Keep those that wished healing and blessings close to you. Him I would forget and disregard.

Sam, there can be a fine line between business and personal. However, if you hadn’t shared your tragedy with us through your blog, we would not have known unless through word of mouth. Your passion with your work is also part of your personality. Your mission in life and work is to help people; and through your blog, you were now asking for help from all of us. Don’t let one person affect you negatively. Your messages are always informative and inspirational. I only hope that our messages to you have provided some comfort and solace. One bad apple will not spoil the bunch! You and your family are in our prayers. Stay positive!

Sam-

I feel it’s okay for you to have made this post asking for advice and prayers.

We all deal with tragedy in different ways. A blog and your email list is a forum for you to learn from as well as your readers to benefit. Thank you for opening up. So “F” Isaiah’s post.

If posting and asking for advice from your readers brings comfort, use it and continue to do it. It’s a positive thing and can help you cope. Remember that saying.: An opinion is an a**hole, everybody has one… so please don’t worry about that comment.

God bless you and your family. I pray you have good week ahead.

Sam, I don’t know you, and have not met you. I am so sorry for your loss which I’m sure is not only hard on you, but your Wife, and family. People like Isiah B are insensative, and like many people think of nothing beyond thier own noses. Sadly his coments have hurt you, and your grieving family. Someone like that will never understand the gravity of loss like yours untill it happens to them. “I mean GOD SOME PEOPLE”! I will save the colorfull euphamisms I could use, and instead send blessings to you, and your family, but I can’t help but say What a Jack Ass Isiah B is. Self centered Jack ass!

The Bible says in Matt. 18:19-20,
19″Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. 20For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.”
You were simply asking us to agree with you in prayer for peace and comfort. I personally did not take it as anything other than that.

Hi Sam,

You were not wrong. This guy is an idiot. In times like this we all turn to God, our family and friends for support. We spend more time together then we do with our family. Hang in there and dont worry about what he said. There is always a sour apple in the bunch.

Much love

Laura

I think this guy has problems and no one to share them with.
Sam you did nothing wrong. You had a heart breaker and all your friends to your aid. It’s great to have good friends.

Dr. Sam,

I am so sorry about your son. Nothing can make that better but time.

While I think Isiah was very thoughtless with his comments, he does have a point. Informing your friends and family about a tragedy to obtain support and love is a natural thing and nobody can judge anybody for that. Sending out an e-mail blast to people you don’t know could be construed they way Isiah took it.

I think you should tell Isiah to fuck off. But understand that you can’t control how people are going to react to what you post or e-mail. I know you to be a very sincere man. I also know you to be a take no prisoners, saturation marketer. Some people only know you as one or the other. I don’t know if any of us gets a pass when we try to blend our personal lives with our professional ones.

As somebody who gets some hate mail on occasion, I can tell you this: Let the haters hate. It’s what they do. You know how you meant what you wrote. Don’t explain it or defend it.

Again Sam. I am so very sorry about your loss.

Peter

Isiah,what a beautiful name and person written about in the Bible. God has blessed you with a huge family trying to share not only a sad day but a blessing from God to fix something that wasn’t right in this baby’s life. Sam has many brothers and sisters in the eyes of Jesus and felt that sharing his personal life would make him and his family feel better. If Sam needed gain for his business, he surely wouldn’t use his family. Sam’s quality of a blessed person speaks for it’s self. Sit back, be still and listen. Now think. Did your heart really mean what you said? If so, I am sorry and I praise God for your feelings. If not , you are also forgiven. Just ask!!!!! God bless you.

I think that everyone deals with things differently. The way that you deal with things is different from the way that this “gentleman” deals with things or even the way that I would…but that certainly does NOT make you wrong! You were blessed by hearing the words of encouragement and prayers from others just as THEY were Blessed by getting to share… he can just get over it :O)

Wow, if this guy even met you for five minutes, he would realize that there is nothing “to buy”. I think it’s awesome that you are willing to put yourself out there to people and share what’s going on in your life. Social support CAN and DOES help people through tough times.

You have no need to even wonder if you shouldn’t have shared that with your blog and subscribers. It’s part of your life, and it’s who you are. He can simply just unsubscribe =)

sam,
you do not know me but i do not mind at all that you blogged about the tragedy of your son. i in no way thought you were using this tragedy as a business move. Blogs are in many ways outlets; outlets to share and express feelings to the masses, so whether it be good or bad I read your blogs simply because i gain knowledge about health and wellness each time i open them. I also know prayer works and i immediately prayed for your family when i read the blog. This man clearly has no love and when you step out of love you lose your blessings, so he lost. in short, not responding to such nonsense means God will bless you because you stayed within the love circle. have a wonderful day

I can understand how Isiah might have thought this as a marketing strategy (a very cruel one I might add). I don’t know you very well, but as a parent I know that dealing with a loss like yours needs all the prayers and support one is able to receive. We often go through life not expressing what we’re feeling and this has made this world a very messy one. I admire your courage to share your life with all of us. As for Isiah I am not sure he understands family or God. A person who believes in God, the one spoken of in the Bible, would never write such thing as he did. God bless you and your family… God bless Isiah.

One person’s openness to share is often interpreted as an assault to those that are fearful of sharing – so they lash out with anger, or hostility.

You are a person who deals with things publicly. Asking for people to help you through a time of need is nothing to be ashamed of, nor apologized for.

I don’t see anyone reading your blog post and deciding they need to join the gym. So increasing your market share wasn’t accomplished.

You have touched many people in many different ways, and those that don’t know you on a more personal level can always misread your intentions.

Sam, be you and never apologize for it!

If you don’t like you… then change yourself (you told me that).

You aren’t wrong for your post – and I am sure it provided you with support and comfort knowing that so many people empathized with your situation, felt your pain, and wished you and your family well during this time of loss.

Bless you my friend.

Sam, I don’t respond or acknowledge ignorance. So that should answer your question concerning Isiah. You be encouraged no one can tell you how to grieve and handle your situations but you. You are the lifeline for many people it’s only fair for that to be reciprocated. Be Blessed and Prosper

Pay no attention to that person. They are an energy vampire, It is obvious that you shared such tragic news to avoid confusion. I’m sure this has been very difficult for you and the last thing you want is someone asking about it in the future.

Though my intentions would never be to disrespect, I can’t help but agree to some of what Isiah B is referring to. I too didn’t think it was appropriate to disclose such personal and delicate information. Especially to individuals that you hardly know. There are things in life that are just meant to remain private and I can’t help but be a bit suspicious with how this message came across. I’m part of the general public because I hardly know you and getting a message like this is highly unusual, very uncomfortable to address, and one can’t help wonder if there is an intention outside of seeking support. Unfortunately, that is just how this message came across and one can’t help but draw such a conclusion. I was tempted to bring this up myself but because I don’t know you, I didn’t feel it was right to do so. I know one thing for sure I would have never taken the tone Isiah took. Poor judgement seems to be seeping through everyone’s pores in this forum.

There is always one in the crowd. Just be a little more thick skinned in this sense and know that not everyone is as compassionate as you and I. We have to feel for them as they are the one that does not have happiness in their life. Wish them well, say a prayer for them and let it go. Give yourself peace of mind and know that you are always doing what you feel is the right thing in your mind and move on. You are a great person and don’t ever forget it! What you are sharing is something you feel you need help with and lets face it, it’s not an easy thing you probably have gotten some very valuable info to help with the mental aspects of loss and how to deal with it! All will work out … just keep being you!

Sam and family,

PLEASE do not give Isiah B any thought. Honestly this person has no compassion at all. It sounds like this person might be jealous of all that you have accomplished and of your beautiful family. I’m honored you thought about all of us and shared your sadness. In a crisis like this we need all the prayers from family and friends that we can get. May God continue to bless you at this very difficult time.

WOW!! I would have never expected anyone to go so low as to post something like this. Did he ever think to actually send u a private email. Sam, the unfortunate thing for him is that he has never met you! If he like most of ur followers who have met you he would know the kind soul you are. U’ve built a rapport with your followers- your real and personal!! All you can hope is that one day this individual will open his eyes and see the true meaning of being real and authentic like you, who has inspired soooo many people!!

Keep being you and all you generously inspire us to do!!

God Bless

I think sharing your loss was a way of healing and I do not see anything wrong with that. I do not see how sharing your loss will help your business.

I don’t think that you were wrong to ask for help in your time of need. As someone who has personally had a miscarriage, anyone that can offer a kind word or prayers on your behalf is greatly appreciated. I think this guy is way off-base.

I think what you did was both appropriate and necassary. Reaching out to people for prayer and comfort is what we are all suppose to do. Please don’t apologize to this bitter person. He has a choice what he reads if he is so cold as to feel the need to lash out at someone who has suffered a loss than he has more issue than you will be able to addresss in a reply email.

Sam,

Besides the 700 emails you received, I’m sure there were many others like myself whose hearts bled for you, but just didn’t know what to say. Several of my family members have experienced the loss of unborn children, and I can imagine the pain and devastation you feel. Time will ease that pain some.

As for the fellow who wrote to you with such a rude message, my experience in life has taught me that there will always be that kind of people around. In any group of 100 people, there will be several, in fact. I do not feel you were wrong in sharing your personal experience with your email “fans”; it was in line with the personal, friendly tone you always maintain. It opened you up to receive the outpouring of kindness from the vast majority of us, but it also opened you up to receive the outflowing of unkindness from one person.

I suggest you try to just shrug it off, maybe take him off your list. The rest of us appreciate you very much. And you can never please everyone.

Sam:

To be honest I was, at first, a little shocked that you shared something so painful and personal as the loss of an unborn child in an email. When I shared the news with others, they were a little shocked as well, but we all chalked it up to the new “information era” and thought that at least it was a good way to share bad news without having to repeat the same story over and over.

Here’s a story for you….I have lived in the same area for a while and used the same dry cleaners. It’s a family-run business and the owner, a very sweet Asian man is always very nice to me. He knows me by name and even recognizes my clothes on the rack (which is great because I never remember to bring my ticket).

One day he did me a favor and rushed my clothes through. I was going to see my children in San Francisco. He smiled and said he liked the city but hadn’t been there in a few years. Then quietly he shared with me that the last time he and his family had been on vacation in San Francisco they received the call that every parent dreads…they’re son had been killed in an accident.

What was so amazing to me was that this terrible thing had happened to him while I was his customer and I had no clue. I probably went in to his shop around that time and he greeted me with the same smile, the same small talk and helped me out to my car without the slightest acknowledgement of the terrible loss he suffered.

There was something elegantly powerful about the way he chose to share his loss with me. I doubt that he has a website and if he did, he would not have the huge following you do, but that’s because you are different people.

You did what worked for you and while there are those of us we prefer the quiet elegance of the man at the dry cleaners, no one who knows you could fault you for wanting the world to know that you lost something very dear to you.

The bottom line is that you need to “Do You” as Russell Simmons says. Make no apologies, but expect that there will be those who misinterpret your intensions.

Time heals all and loss and pain are univeral experiences. Everyone deals with them differently, but whatever you need to do to get through, do it. Life’s hard enough.

You and Jonette have been in my thoughts and I know that you will get through this together and be closer for the experience.

DEAR SAM,THIS MAN OBVIOUSLY DOES NOT KNOW U. YOU, YOUR FAMILY, AND ALL WHO WORK FOR U R LIKE FAMILY MEMBERS TO ME AND I AM SURE TO MOST OF YOUR CLIENTS WHOM YOU HAVE HELPED OR IN THE PROCESS OF HELP CREATE A BETTER HEALTHIER LIFE FOR THEMSELVES. LIKE JEFF SAID PLEASE DO NOT STOP BEING YOU! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Sam
Don’t let Isiah’s comment get to. Don’t give him or anyone that power. Bless you and you family.
Matt

Sam… we all know that you did not write for your personal gain… 1) you do not need to do such a thing because you are successful because you have a BIG heart! and you work hard in helping your community and family out…

There has never been a time when you didn’t share your life experiences with us… from health, to your marriage, your first baby and now your loss… so you writing about your tragedy is normal and understandable because it’s a way for us to cope with our situations. I don’t think it was wrong for you to reach out to us. Writing is what you do best… and you write so much wisdom and heart from your newsletters, blogs, and even personal notes. don’t let one comment get to you… some people may think you had motives in writing your blog… but with those who knows you very well… we know that you write because that’s what you also do best… other than helping us with our healthy goals and lifestyles. keep your head up and just know that you have never let us down.

Sam, people subscribe to your blog–it is not mass emailed. You have the right to put anything you want on your blog. If someone is not interested in reading your blog, they can unsubscribe–It’s that simple. As for me, I enjoy your posts. I understand that sone of your posts may not apply to me and I just delete those. Keep up the good work for those of us that enjoy your posts .

Hi Sam,

All of us are different. Some of us live very private lives. Some of us (like yourself) are quite public. Our life’s work is much a part of who we are. So, sharing your life is just part of you. What that guy wrote was insensitive, unnecessary, and likely motivated by a sort of jealousy of your success. If he doesn’t like your approach to your life & your work, all he has to do is unsubscribe. And of course, profanity is never necessary, especially in the context of this situation.

Sometimes, people do us a favor by complaining because it causes us to be more introspective about our businesses, but what he did showed a mean nature.

I’m really sorry to hear about your loss. My wife miscarried on our first attempt many years ago and in the heat of it all we thought we were the only ones that this happens to. We (and you) aren’t. It happens a lot more people than you think and I have no doubt that God will give you guys many more chances.

You’ve helped and encouraged a lot of people and you deserve some encouragement back. Both of you, keep your chins up. Time will heal the hurt.

And by the way, simple answer: No, you weren’t wrong. You were just being yourself. Isaiah was being an insensitive loaf. If he had any feelings, he’d apologize.

Best Regards,

Joe

The only mistake you made was having Isiah on your email list. If you only had one comment like this Your doing good as there are a lot of sceptics who can’t believe that anyone would like them unless there was something in it for them. You are a genuine person and people who know you would never think such a negative thought about you. I am so happy that you are able to reach out to so many people and have it help you through the low points. I know that when I had my last Birthday it felt so good to get so many “happy birthdays” just having support helps and makes us all feel good. You are in my prayers.

Sam,
It is unfortunate that there are some very lost souls out there in this world. I believe that God is the Heavenly Father, so if you belive the same we have the same Father, doesn’t that make us family? So Isiah would be right, we just need to pray that he joins our family also. Sam we all love and support you, like some have already said don’t change.

Your Friend
Scott S.

That person’s language was hurtful and my first reaction is to pray for his insensitivities. You know what your heart’s intent was and whatever way you sent out the message requesting for healing or prayers, is not important. Maybe the most “contact names” you have is through your business account and I think your intent was reaching out. Maybe this person is someone whom you need to take off your “list.” Working in any capacity, I would hope all of us have the pleasure of those with good spirits and strong hearts. Do not worry about his comments for they are only his and not the mass.

Many blessings of compassion….

I couldnt respond on the site, but it didnt bother me a bit, I think it was brave of you to put it in there, some people can’t share about similar tragedies(myself included) and reminds us that we are not alone. As for the family and god statement that seems ignorant because family is not always supportive and not everyone believes in God. As for using it to boost business(if someone feels they need to boost business in that manner then they must really need business; it’s like the guy that stole my daughters bike…he must have needed it more than we do).

On another note I will be ready to meet with you the first week of september, that’s when the kids are back in school…by the way, is there babysitting at your gym?

Hey Dr. Sam ~ Clearly this person doesn’t know you and that your clients are not just your clients, but your extended family. How sad for ‘him” that he has never had the love and support that you have had to help and support your during this most difficult time.

Continue to be you and reach out to the ones that care, support and love you. I could be a nasty as him, but instead I will pray for him as well.

~ Kerman.

Sam,

Some people are just ignorant. I lost my little sister March 1st she was 48 and had down’s syndrome it was so very hard and still is I hour after she died I posted it. It made me feel a little better to write it down. Just like you I received 100’s of comments, prayers and it made me feel good to know that even people who did not know me well had kind thoughts it gave me comfort. People like the person who commented is a very sick person they need therapy for themselves. The best thing for you to do is try to let it go and know that people care about you and your family and they are just not of any value to you or probably anyone else. I think they need your prayers using profanity and writing to you like that is the most vile thing. Sam it gets easier just know that you did nothing wrong the person who wrote that did.

“Hey brother, I know that you are a man of faith. When I heard the tragic news, I called my wife and and prayed for you and your wife. Don’t worry about the haters–be strong for Johnette. I am so sorry for your loss.”

Sam, I’m unable to connect to the blog at the moment, but feel the need to respond. So I hope you get this in your email, feel free to post it if you like.

I’m very sorry for your loss. I don’t think you were wrong in any way. I think posting it was smart and emotionally healthy. Do I think it’s a bit of a personal gain? I won’t lie, I think it is a little. However, you are obviously very dedicated to your business and make an effort to not only relate to your clients, but to allow them to relate to you. This is apparent in all the work you do and all that you post. Everyone copes differently and for someone who gives everything they have to their in trying to help others and for whom their business is such a personal and important part of their life, I think there was nothing wrong with you posting that you could use some words of encouragement and prayer. I think this person has is suffocating in his own rear end and forgetting all the encouraging words YOU have posted to everyone on a regular basis. There is nothing wrong with asking for the same in return and allowing your clients to relate to you on an emotional level. It shows you’re human and connected to them, not just some random person who has the perfect life trying to preach the art perfect living. I believe that everything happens for a reason and if this tragic loss can bring any positivity at all to you, your family, or your business after the long journey of emotional healing an grief, then this event and your son have served their purpose in this world as well as the will of God. Too bad Isiah, or whatever his name is can’t see the of day from where his head is at. Again, I’m deeply sorry for you loss and wish you and your family the best. I don’t think you should have any reservations about posting such things and asking for encouragement. Life happens.

-Monica

Omg Sam. I’m SO sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family. I can only imagine how hard it has been. I hope you guys are able to focus on all the beauty in the world and all the positives as I’m sure it’s such a difficult time. Tons of love and strength to you all.

I saw what that guy said to you, i wouldnt listen to anything he says boy, he made no sence in that statement, hes just a hater that u made it bigger than him and just said some really stupid stuff, u know im here for you and i love you, and im sorry about what happen boy i miss you and love you, im only one phone call away

Love, Reza

Dr. Sam,

You are in pain. You consider all of your customers, friends and clients as family because your business is personal. No you are not wrong. Furthermore it is not right to judge anyone who is suffering in the pain of loss.

Best Wishes,

Janet

Sam: this kind of comment is best IGNORED! Don’t take it personally. It comes from a sick person. Please take my advice. I would also remove him from your blog, if he subscribes.

I don’t feel you were wrong to share your pain and loss. May God bless you and your family and grant you another healthy baby.

Hi Sam,

Of course you were not wrong for reaching out. When you are blindsided by tragedy, turning inward in the natural response, however healing is slow, difficult and even confusing. The examples shown by your family, friends and others of support and love are something that will stay with you when it is your turn to support and love someone else when they are struck by tragedy. This individuals use of the word god with a small “g” is very telling. I would in turn keep this person in your thoughts and prayers. Someday, something will bring him to his knees and he will hopefully turn to Him. I’ve been thinking of you and Johnette a lot. Could I ask your son’s name?

Love you both,
Kim

Let’s all pray for small minded people who have such a small brain. I can’t comprehend where you could gain anything for your business by sharing such a personal loss. Fortunately, I have never lost a child, but I would have to seek comfort wherever I could find it. I appreciated the fact that you were willing to reach out and ask “your friends” for comfort. Keep on doing what you do, do it by any mean you choose and don’t stress over someone with a small brain and eviodently little compassion. Have a joyful and blessed day. Remember I and others appreciate what you put out here for us.

“Wow…seriously? And who is he to pass judgment on u? Personal gain? Yes, of support and love in a time it was needed! You actually stepped back from business and took a moment to just be YOU! People talk, blog and write their feelings out all the time to deal. Some choose not to talk at all and hold it all in. Majority of us subscribers know u to some level. We are family and friends. I’m sure through ur blog was probably the easiest way to share the news for you. Sam, I wouldn’t even dignify this guy’s inappropriate comment with a response. Just tell him to read our responses! He’s entitled to his own opinion but this one should’ve been kept to himself…as he said, he doesn’t even know you! Some people!”

“God gives you family and friends. If you can not share your loss or your love then what is humanity for? Block this person. May peace be with you and as you continue to reach out we are here for you. “

Sam

There are many good people in the world…and a few bad apples. In my life I try to surround myself with people with the same type of outlook as I have. All of the people on your blog agreed to be there so if I was you I would ignore this. You can please some of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time; this is also a quote but I am not sure from whom. Life is to short; do not waste your time thinking about this type of thing.

Always

Edy

Sam…. The world is full of people who need attention. I do not think tHat you are one of them. However, I do think thAt Isiah is. He was just being a jerk. If that is truly how he felt, then he should have kept his comments to himself. In the mean time, pray for him because he needs to learn compassion for others. Keep your head up. P.S. Look at all of the people who prayed for you and your family. Be Blessed!:)

I have been called many ugly things for putting my life in the public forum that is social media. Hurtful words can be hard to swallow and make us question our decision to make our lives public. The question you have to ask yourself is this, “Is it worth it?” I had to decided if being called an “ignorant whore who couldn’t keep her legs closed” was worth ignoring for the sake of helping others through my blogging. At the end of the day, I decided that all of the ugliness was spewed by ignorant people and was worth ignoring for the sake of helping thousands of others with my life story. Even if you do not fully realize your impact, it exists. Your story deserves to be told…needs to be told. There is at least one person out in the world who your story helps and if you ask me, it is well worth the few nay sayers who seek to spread hate. Keep up the good fight and don’t let the few get you down.

You know Sam, I had read this on your blog,,and it bothered me a great deal as well. It bothered me so much because 19 years ago I was in your shoes….As far as this guy goes, if he is a customer of yours,,blow him off n forget him,,,if he’s not, delete him and remember always,,,,,,he cares nothing about anyone but himself and his ego most likely wouldn’t fit in the state of Texas,and that you and your wife and beautiful daughter Are much better than him….That’s just my opinion hope it helps…..

Dear Sam,

I didn’t know you were expecting another child so when I read the title of your blog I wasn’t sure what was going on. I was a bit surprised to hear about your situation through this form of communication but we do live in a different era. We, all, have to heal in whatever way works best for us. Hopefully all the thoughts and prayers from your friends and acquaintances helped you thru this time of sorrow. Bless you and your family!!!

Sam,

Its sad that this person took the time to write that to you when they could have just unsubscribed to your blog if they didn’t like the content. Obviously Isaih is suffering in a different way. I think you reaching out for support was cool of you and shows that you are an open, caring and loving person. We all need to support eachother and stop being selfish individuals.

Much respect for doing it,
Ian

Sam,

For some reason I can’t leave a comment. No you were not wrong. I would not respond to that comment, as I believe if someone is that hadr-hearted toward your original plea they’re not going to listen to anothe rone. Soem people are just fools. I’m still praying for you and your family.

Kirk

Hello Sam

How are you? First I would like to express my sincere sympathy in the passing of your son. In time, these situation do make us stronger and the family bond tighter.

In response to the unfavorable blog. I feel your intention were honorable and that your blog base of clients and friend appreciated the update.

Some who don’t know you and recieved the blog may wonder about your intentions but, do we really need to worry about those individuals. Response to his e-mail should be short apologitic and leave it at that. Remember the positve responses heavily out weigh the one negative response.

Remember when your Mom said “if you nothing nice to say ….then don’t say anything” The fact that he mentions God and family in one sentance and then drops the F-Bomb speeks for itself. I don’t want to be in his shoes when Karma rolls around and he reaps the compastion his sows. Ignore it and move forward Sam,,,,

Hi Sam,

While I didn’t post on your blog, I did pray for you. I know this is a very difficult time. I hope you know that while your son is with God in Heaven, it was not God who took your child away from you. The Bible says it is the enemy of our faith who comes to “steal, kill and destroy” and that Jesus came to “give us life and that more abundantly” (John 10:10). God is always there with you through the pain of life and the attacks of the enemy. He will walk you through it and will find some way to bring good from it, if you let Him. I know that is hard to see at this point. It sounds like you are doing a good work and God may use you down the road in a way you could never imagine right now. Let this time of grief bring you closer to your wife and closer to God. I pray His peace will invade your spirit in a way you don’t even understand. Remember that you will be with your son again as long as you continue to follow God.

My prayers will continue to be with you,

Bethany

I don’t think you were wrong at all. I have never met you. I was somehow pointed to your direction and have been reading your advice and putting it into practice and have been very blessed by it. I feel Isiah’s response is what is wrong with this world today. If we ask for help, support, and prayers it is because we are in need. I didn’t feel used or like you were trying to gain anything for your business in the slightest. If we all stand together and support each other in good times and bad…well, that’s what it’s ALL about! Sharing anything personal whether good or bad just makes reading emails and blogs seem like they are truly coming from a person who cares about our goals and fitness. Personal relationships are where it’s at. Maybe he is lacking in his relationships and doesn’t know what to make of this. Did he comment negatively when you were talking about all of the fun things you do with your daughter? Maybe this particular event just touched a nerve in him. I don’t know. But I do know that I truly appreciate you being “real” and “transparent”; sharing your heart and your help in personal and business things keeps me reading and motivated.

Now we all need to pray for Isiah!

Christi

Ignore this, Sam. There is always one idiot in every crowd. Here’s your idiot!

Jeff

Sam
As you know, some people just need HELP and this character is one of them. How sad he is–he must be truly miserable in his life to respond the way he did. I do not feel you did anything to gain business……you are a kind person and help people everyday and you were just showing people you know and care about that you are human and things happen that maybe you even need help understanding or dealing with. I would not give this person a second thought……he is not worth it and one day as i always say KARMA is a muda f…..you know the rest. LOl and he will get his for acting so thoughtless and ignorant. Stay true to you and know that you and your family our still in alot of our prayers and stay strong and know that you may of helped someone through something just by being you and putting your blog out there and at the end of the day if he didnt like it he didnt have to say anything……you take care

your friend,
TJ

I would not worry about it, what he said was wrong, but there are always people like that out there. I would have done the same as you did. Have a Great Day!! Gerry……….

700 people wanted to reach out to you. One did not. I would say that person has the problem. Take him off your list.

“Sammy- don’t spend any more of your precious energy worrying about this…I don’t know who he is or why he feels like he does.I won’t judge him. Just please remember that some of the folks who responded with prayers and heartfelt sympathy have known you for a quarter of a century, love you like a brother and would never, ever be anything but heartbroken and supportive of you and your wife during this time of loss and grieving…I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, and that you are having this additional unfortunate battle is troubling. You and your lovely wife and beautiful daughter hang in there! “

Hey Sam, wanted to let you know I’m keeping you and your beautiful wife in my prayers. I had a miscarriage also. Our first child took us 11 months to conceive. Than 2 years later we tried for our 2nd child. After a short time we got pregnant, but lost the baby at 10 weeks. It was very difficult for us. I didn’t want to talk about it at all, but my husband explained to me that there is a reason all things happen. Sam we don’t always understand but God does have a plan, keep your faith. The rest of the story is the doctor told us to wait 3 months before trying again. We did as the doctor told us and got pregnant 2 months later. We have 2 beautiful and blessed teenagers.
You don’t know me but I’m a pretty private person and don’t like any attention on myself, my husband is just the opposite. I have crohns disease but I have been symptom free and no meds since I had my surgery 11 years ago. A couple of months ago I started having symptoms again. My husband decides to put it on facebook. I was so shocked that he would put my personal business out there. I asked him, why would you do that? He said how could you fault me for asking my family and friends to pray for my wife? You know what Sam, I couldn’t.
Just so you know, not for one second did I think that you used facebook to promote your business in this situation. You always post things the happening in your life, ( baby births, beach trips, hikes, vacations, parties)so why wouldn’t you post the information on the miscarriage. It’s sad to say there are many unhappy people in the world. You should put what you want on your facebook page. If people don’t like what you put on your page they can always delete you as a friend. You’re in my prayers…….
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If Isiah used his anger in his workouts he’d be huge!”

“Some how he ended up on your email list a d wanted to be apart of it. If he doesn’t like what you have to say all he has to do is delete your messages or unsubscribe you. F**ck*! IDIOT”

“That guy is a hater because you got 700 people who like you to comment. He’s probably lonely cuz no one likes him. Some how he’s on your email list so he shouldn’t be offended by your comment.”

“Sam, my father always told me” when you point a finger at someone you have 3 pointing back at yourself” I agree with Christi. “

“Grief, trauma, sadness, happiness, joy, elation…feelings and shared experiences connect us as living, breathing human beings to one another. Sam, I do not know you as a long-time friend, but you are my Facebook friend for a reason and when I originally read your post, I felt such sad emotion for you and your family. I don’t have to know both of you intimately in order for my heart to feel deeply for your loss. We live in a wonderful world of connection unlike any other time in history and it gives us the gift to reach out to humanity, express ourselves and receive enlightenment in ways never experienced before. Isaiah’s response isn’t worth any more of your energy…”

“I think Isiah’s comment is too extreme and unnecessary. I don’t see how losing an unborn child is going to increase your business. Isiah doesn’t know what motivates consumers to buy.”

Everyone deals with things differently. Some people keep to themselves, others need to share with people. I don’t believe you would use your tragedy for personal gain. Keep your head up Sam and God bless you and your family. “

“Wow, what else can I say but , wow”

“Sam, if it helps you to read the support and prayers of others and comforts you to let you know how much we all care about you and want you to know that God is with you then that guy is 100% absolutely wrong. Keep posting! Jodi is absolutely right. We all need support from time to time and if you cannot get that support from your friends then where are you supposed to turn?”

“What can you say ?…..not worth a response. It reminds me of something Wayne Dyer once said. In political elections, if you win by having 51% of the vote, you win by a “landslide”. In life , if you can get just half the people you deal with to agree with you plus just 1% you are doing great.”

“I think Isiah’s comment is too extreme and unnecessary. I don’t see how loosing an unborn child is going to increase your business either. Isiah doesn’t know what motivates consumers to buy.”

don’t know who his god is. He spells it with a lower case g.
If he knew the real God, his heart would be more tender.

“Jodi is right. When it happened to me it wasn’t talked about. It made everyone uncomfortable. And so many of us are friends either past or present that it is a natural place to seek comfort. “

“Keep posting, Sam. I would have given the world to be able to read so many supportive comments when it happened to me. What’s wrong with looking for a little bit of god in each of us?”

“That guy is a heartless idiot~Sam, I know what you are going through and I know that you were not doing that to promote your business. Friends are a huge support system in times like these~Keeping your family in my prayers~”

“Sam, this is what I have to say to the person that has caused you to ask if you were wrong seeking help through your business website (email, FB)….he’s a heartless bastard!!! I don’t normally get involved in things like this, but the guys an ass! Maybe he’s never had serious heartache and/or pain. I know you very well and this is not a time where you would use something public like FB or business email to improve your business. You are a family man and it takes a real man to be able to seek help when necessary. Blow this guy off and don’t let him get to you. What’s more important is to be there for your wife and for the both of you to heal. People like this aren’t worth it!”

“Yea that guy is a douche…if he thinks you want to profit off your loss then he’s an idiot.. some people are private others share their grief for whatever reason. What I would do in my time of grief should not be judged just because you wouldn’t deal with it that way. To each Its own… “

“Hi Sam, I believe that you have gotten so close to all your subscribers that you see them as family or the very least close friends. And I believe that most of us see you in the same fashion. We (most of us) appreciate you sharing your life with us and that includes such painful and tragic events. We all deal with pain in different ways and if that person disagreed with your method of self healing….What kind of person would choose such a cold and callous way to express their disagreement. Most would have just not said anything or requested to unsubscribe. Unfortunately, that person felt the need to kick you while you were already down. 699 + of your subscribers are 100% behind you…..and that is what is important. ”

Hey Sam,

I was taken off guard for a moment because I didn’t know what to say and it is something so private. But I have a blog and I treat everyone that is on my list like family. I respect you professionally and I pray for the healing of your family. Maybe next time, don’t do an email blast but a general statement from your family and asking folks to respect your privacy at this time. Just a suggestion.

God Bless!

Sam,
It’s really a shame that Isiah feels this way…and yet to express such words in your time of pain. Personnally I would not waste my time in responding, we are handling it for you by our reponses. Some of us were fortunate to be taught when children to reach out to others. I really don’t know you well but just from my first meeting with you I could tell you are a sincere individual.
So….Sam and to your lovely wife, don’t let people and comments “RENT SPACE IN YOUR BRAIN”. Continue accepting thoughts and prayers from everybody and anybody who cares to read.
ATTN: Anyone who reads Sam’s blog and feels like Isiah, don’t respond, have some class if not a heart!
Leticia

Isiah’s opinion is not one that most share. People like him are narrow-minded and pretentious. He will never know what it is to walk in another man’s shoes because he hasn’t learned yet how to walk himself. He is the type of person who gets his feelings of self-worth by putting others down.

Ignore him. He’s not worth getting upset over. He will eventually reap what he soes.

DFA

Sam, ignore this guy. I appreciate your openness and love for your family. One unhappy person out of 700 is quite a testimony to you. Also did you notice he spelled God with a little g. Maybe that is what he needs more than the physical conditioning you provide! Love you and keep up the good work.

Sam, it takes a lot of courage and trust to share personal information. The. Questionable comment was from a person who appears to forget that life is about people. You were kind enough to share. It’s obvious that some information may not be for everyone. I admire your openess. I wouldn’t take the comments to heart from isaih b. I probably would not include them in future discussions as they don’t seem to be able to manage the information very well.

That was a hurtful comment yet I do understand him because when I received your e-mail at first I thought to my self “Why is he sending me this yet I read it again and said well I can’t even imagine the pain he has of losing a child.” And although I don’t know you in person Sam I still couldn’t believe you lost your son. I hope this gives you at least a peace of mind because my sister died at 4 months old yet maybe my sister was to precious to stay in this earth and is why god took her away. Your son was meant to be a angel up there with god. Keep in mind your meet again. Other then that don’t even sweat it hun, it’s not worth your time. Yet I would reply saying “God Bless you Isiah”… God Bless You And Your Family!!! Take care… *

Sam,
Isiah’s attitude disgusts me. Stay away from such negative people like him. They only try to make others miserable because they are unhappy with their own life. Stay strong Sam, you have a lot going for you.

Just let it go! This person has a problem and you were there to lash out at. Don’t take it personel its his problem not yours. My prayers are with your child, you and your family.
God Bless!

First—Isiah should be deleted from your e-mail list and dismissed as a client, if he is one. He does not deserve to be associated you, your family, and clients in any manner. He is a thoughtless idiot. If he did not like what you did, he should have just ignored your post. What he did was totally uncalled for.

My heart goes out to you and your wife in this time. You certainly did not need Isiah to add to your grief and heartache.

I don’t think what you did was wrong. You obviously have a close relation to your clients and it was the easiest way to let everybody know, and to get lots of prayers and good thoughts going to help you deal with the situation.

Dont stop what your doing bro it was just a message i think its very toching u share this with us thats how we know u actually care bro

Hi Sam,
You are not the main stream BUSINESSMAN…..and that may be where some may have not understood your decison to use your e-mail blast to reachout for your personal tragedy.
I can remember how sensitive your were to me, when shortly after I joined your gym, I suffered an injury. You were rational and generous, and have always left the door open for me to return…whenever…with no further cost…unheard of in the business world! Two years later, I am still not able to return, but I know when and if I am ever well again, you will welcome me with open arms. This is the SAM that we all love, and the one that innocently reached out for help.
Was it TRADITIONAL? NO!… ARE YOU TRADITIONAL? NO!
BUT THANK GOD! This is why you ARE SO RESPECTED AND ENDEARED.
My sincere advice is to ignore Isaiah, or respond with ” Thank you for taking your time to respond…may God Bless You..”
Then spend your energy on helping yourself and family heal with the support of the hundreds who stand with you….just as you are….

The heck with that guy….If he is not in your life or your FAMILY’S life then who gives a rats @$$ what he thinks….Just wait till he has to face something so painful as such…..WE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU!!!!!

Hi Sam,
I think the comment the guy made was wrong in his behalf… if he did not care he should have not comment.
You do good in your buisness because you truly care for others. You help so many with there health issues and we become close good friends.Don’t ever change countinue to be you. I thank God I found you and appriciate all you do for my family… My God continue to bless you, the family and your buisness. Please pay no attention to that person.
Diana

Hi Sam, I have been reading your blogs for quite some time, wheater is about fitness or the birth of your daughter. At the same time I can see Isaiah’s point, even though you share some very personal things the majority of your postings are related to fitness so on the outside the perception can be that this situation is being exploited for your personal gain, after all no where on your original blog do you mention your wife and I can’t even begin to imagine what she is going thru. I’ve been your customer, I’ve met your family and I know the type of person you are from our interactions while I was there so I know you were reaching out to your community of friends. My suggestion would be to ignore Isaiah’s comment, after all he is entitled to his opinion. What you are going thru is very personal and traumatic but know that there are a lot of people that support you, so use that strenght you are being blessed with thru our comments and be there for your family first and foremost.

Victor

Hi Sam,
I was a little surprised by the email just because I am such a private person and would never do anything like that. It never crossed my mind that it was anything to promote your business, I just figured people grieve in different ways. I am very sorry for your loss and my opinion is that guy should have just unsubscribed and kept quiet. He was way out of line.

Dr. Sam,

Do not let a few spoil the support of the many. Remembr, your friends do not need an explaination and anyone who would complain about your sharing your grief does not deserve your friendship. Sharing good times and bad are what friends are for. True friends are a blessing and it appears you are very blessed!!!

Thanks,
Bob

You are a caring thoughtful sharing kind of person. Thats you dont change for anyone! As soon as you start bending for everybody your not being straight with your self!
So YOU BE YOU FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!
I love you like a brother and you know that and i will always consider you family…..
No I dont think you did it for personal gain, obviously this guy doesnt know you at all and maybe he shouldnt ve been on you list of friends to be contacted.
Now just tell me who this guy is and where he lives and and me and the boys will go straighten him out “Cabish?”

Dr Sam

Someone once told me, “When you soar with eagles, you can’t let the turkeys get you down.’ I believe you soar with eagles because of your sincere desire to help others live
their best life. That guy was a total turkey and completely out of line.

Thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Hi Sam,

We all need to keep in mind that tragedies are written about often in print media articles that reach millions.

Since email is now widely accepted it is natural to communicate in this way.

We choose to read these articles and the writers are encouraged in times of tragedy to reach out

to others as generally people want to offer help, kind words, and prayers. As you mentioned in thank you

letter there were many helpful responses.

Any negative response you might receive shows a lack of character on the part of the sender.

You are supplying your readers with fitness information that is helpful to their health. Your openness about

tragedy was a good example to everyone of a healthy way to deal with tragedies.

Linda

Sam…the truth has it way of showing itself in a very humorous way. What we say about others says more about who WE ARE than who they are. See the humor in it, feel the compassion for the guy (poor Isiah…he has issues)and then hit the delete button.

There are negative people all around us, but in order to move forward and stay positive, we need to surround ourselves by trusted family and friends, who care about us. When you surround yourself with these positive people; you learn not to give a shit about the rotten apples anymore.

My suggestion to that very “wise man” is, “Don’t give that one rotten apple the power of another thought.” He isn’t worth wasting your time/energy to be concerned with his his type. You said that you received over 700 e-mails that were positive and showed how many people care about you, Johnette, Bailee and your son. I wrote you because I know the kind of man you are and have seen you in action. You were not using the loss of your son to promote your business!!! You were reaching out in your own way. I think that you have a very private side that is hard for you to show others. If 700 people sent you their heartfelt love, symapthy and took the time to reach out to you…don’t give that one bad apple another thought.

I hope that if that “bad apple” ever hit a roadblock, such as you just did…you would reach out to him and continue to show him that you are the same man that “we know.” You can’t change people or their perceptions of you. Don’t let him get the best of you…he is not worth wasting your time, energy or concern over.

You were blindsided by the loss of your son. It hurts and it hurts in a way that you have never experienced before. Ignore the idiot who wrote that message to you. I remember one picture of you; we only saw your back, with your arms extended towards the sky, in your hand was this precious piece of both you and your wifes love…it was Bailee. I carry that picutre in my mind because to me it symbolized that your life had come full circle.

You have suffered, you have percerviered, and you have succeeded to become the man you are today. When I think of that picture now, I see Bailee, but in the other hand is your heart reaching out to touch the one you loved and lost. Any man can be a father, but it takes a great man to be a “Daddy.”

There are two things in this life, we must give our children: One is roots and the other is Wings. You are surrounded by people who love and care about you and your family. Lead by example for your daughter and your son; don’t take time away from her or your wife to think/care about the “one” who had to be an asshole.

I think that is what the “wise man” I met one day would expect me to do…I hope he can follow his own advice.

You are loved and cared for by so many. I know one asshole hurt you in your time of grief. Take an apple outside and throw it as far and as hard as you can. Don’t keep him from letting us surround you with good thoughts, prayers, love and caring.

Sam, Isiah must have been a ball bag in his past life, NO Brains Mate.
All the best to you and your family.

“No you are not wrong, Sam. People forget that FB is a great place to catch up with people that you knew from Highschool and so forth. I love to hear all the good things that my fellow classmates have done with their lives since Sharon Highschool. But unfortunately there are alot of bad things that happens to us too. In those times, we need all the support that we can get to help us get through those times. That’s how you know who your true freinds are. And on a professional note…… No, you should not keep it all bottled up inside. you yourself know what undo stress can do to the human body. Keep your head up my friend. “

I missed your other post about your baby. I’m really sorry to hear of your loss. Someone else I know just lost their unborn baby today and they did the same thing as you, as I would do and as many people do. It’s just the way we communicate today.

Plus, I know you and I know that you consider everyone you come into contact with a friend. You actually care about your clients and really want to help them, not make money off them. And, that’s why you are successful for the long run. Some of us have enough consciousness to realize that family is made through the heart, not through blood or marriage. True family starts off as friends and then develops from there if there are alliances of the heart. We actually are all family, but some people are very confused and walk around lost in their anger, irritation, jealousy, hatred, etc. and not only do they separate themselves from other people, they separate themselves from the source. I feel very bad for these people because they have lost touch with what is real and what love is all about.

Like other people said, don’t take this or any other negative message to heart. Negativity never comes from a higher source. You are a wonderful person and we are all richer for your friendship. My prayers go out for this person and for anyone else that would allow such negativity to feed on them and allow it to spread. Our best reaction to this should be to feel empathy and love towards them and not perpetuate negativity.

All the best, Sam.

Dr. Saman,

We grieve with you and your family and hold them in our prayers. It is unfortunate that there are those that
can not relate to the pain and suffering of others. To attack another person when they are most
vulnerable takes a very unusual callous and insensitive person. They may not understand this but they
desperately need emotional support and prayer too.

Mariano

Sam,
I did see this and felt bad that someone took the time to be so cruel. You have always posted your life events and shared yourself with all of us like an open book. You make yourself accessible and vulnerable, which is why so many of us feel a connection with you that goes beyond that of a place where we work out. You treat us like family. Do not let the obvious error of someone who does not know you burden your mind or heart. Seven hundred wishes of love should far outweight this one individual.
Your friend,
Gabriela

I don’t think it was a business move. This person doesn’t know you. You have an inner voice that tells you what is right and wrong for YOU, listen to that voice. Forgive, move on.

Oh my god Sam…

I am so sorry – I’ve been working out of town nonstop and just saw your blog.

I wish I could give you a huge hug right now.

My heart is with you.

And – ignore what that guy said. There are a lot of people out there that care for you and that is your blog. You are allowed to write whatever you want in it – and I think what happened is significant enough to be put in there. If he doesn’t like what you write, then he can choose not to read it.

*huge hugs*

~Chelsea

Sam you are a great person and I consider you as a mentor to me. Please don’t ever stop being you! Keep your head up man. I am with you!!!!

There is no reason to acknowledge such an insensitive email.
People respond in ways we may not agree with nor understand.
However, you are giving the sender unnecessary & probably
much wanted attention. Let it go< he accomplished his goal of
hurting you and until you let it go, replaying the response only hurts
more. Take care of yourself and give the attention elsewhere.
Good Luck, Yvonne

I can see why he would say that. BUT, it’s an ever increasing virtual world. I have many friends through the internet that I’ve never met in person, but have collaborated and conversed with that I feel like I know and I could call friends with Sam being one of them. A blog is just a tool to do that. Many of us write about very personal things good and bad. Writing itself can be a great coping mechanism, it just happens to be going out to a lot of people.

Of course, Sam is a salesman and he is always relationship marketing, but in this case, I think he was just trying to garner as much support as possible in a really difficult time. It might even help his business, but probably in such a way as to draw us all closer in to knowing him. There’s nothing wrong with selling something and there’s nothing wrong with writing about your personal life in a public place. The beauty of a free country is that if you don’t like it, you don’t have to read it.

Chris Lutz-Master Trainer
http://www.spartatraining.com/members

Dear Dr. Bakhtiar,

I’m sure that you have gotten a lot of messages and emails and hopefully most of them have been of comfort to you. You may not get a chance to read mine, but if you do, please know that you have my deepest sympathies.

When people suffer great tragedies, the way we react varies. We may turn inward and want to be alone or we may look to others for comfort and words of peace. There is no right way to do it; only the way that helps you the most. You asked for words of comfort because you were searching for anything that might help and hopefully it did. When my mother lost a child, she spent the first month after his death sorting through his things and cleaning out his room. Many people criticized her for this reaction, but it was how she dealt with it. It gave her comfort to look through his stuff, to keep busy and to go over past memories. Anyone who would criticize you for how you needed to process the news obviously has never gone through it themselves.

I hope that you allow the real words of sympathy to outweigh the pettiness of people who will look for and find fault with anyone. You may use your blog and facebook page for business, but I also know that you consider most of those people to be your friends. Even if you didn’t, it is not our place to judge how and where one looks for solace. We should just be there to provide it if it is needed.

Again, please know that you and your wife both have my deepest sympathies and will be in my thoughts.

Lesley

“I think that was a horrible disgusting thing for this man to say, he is clearly a lost,very sad individual, hard to pray for a guy like that but that is what we are called to do, love the unlovable, you are a good man Sam with an unbelievable heart, God will restore all you have lost.”

“I’m very sorry for your loss. I don’t think you were wrong in any way. I think posting it was smart and emotionally healthy. Do I think it’s a bit of a personal gain? I won’t lie, I think it is a little. However, you are obviously very dedicated to your business and make an effort to not only relate to your clients, but to allow them to relate to you. This is apparent in all the work you do and all that you post. Everyone copes differently and for someone who gives everything they have to their business in trying to help others and for whom their business is such a personal and important part of their life, I think there was nothing wrong with you posting that you could use some words of encouragement and prayer. I think this person has is suffocating in his own rear end and forgetting all the encouraging words YOU have posted to everyone on a regular basis. There is nothing wrong with asking for the same in return and allowing your clients to relate to you on an emotional level. It shows you’re human and connected to them, not just some random person who has the perfect life trying to preach the art perfect living. I believe that everything happens for a reason and if this tragic loss can bring any positivity at all to you, your family, or your business after the long journey of emotional healing and grief, then this event and your son have served their purpose in this world as well as the will of God. Too bad Isiah, or whatever his name is can’t see the light of day from where his head is. Again, I’m deeply sorry for your loss and wish you and your family the best. I don’t think you should have any reservations about posting such things and asking for encouragement. Life happens.

“I think it was a fine show of revealing your true, inner self, Sam, by showing vulnerability. We’re all vulnerable. We all deal with loss and tragedy. We all need prayer and support and hope otherwise we’re just a human-doing instead of a human-being. It takes a real man to reach out in times of need. It also takes a real man to reach back out when a friend is IN need. Hope our prayers can be of support, doc. God grant you and your family the patience, peace, and comfort you’ll need as you deal with this tragic chapter in your lives. We’re all here for you. Don’t ever forget that.”

First of all Sam your intentions were pure and reaching out to friends and colleagues alike is never wrong. You’re a man of conviction, heart, and intentional kindness. That being said, being your friend I want to tell you should to talk about stuff like that then I am open and ready to help. Don’t allow someone darken your day. God Bless you and your family.

Be glad you are not that guy!

Hi Sam,
I didn’t hesitate to doubt for one minute that you shared this painful part of your life with the people I believe you care about the most. Because you have shared openly your family photos and your heart with us in the past so why would we would feel we are “family” would think you had a “hidden agenda” by sharing the loss of your son. You told us about his conception – how could you have NOT told us about his departure? We, as your internet “family” would have been very hurt and devastated had you NOT shared this with us! Listen Sam – there are a lot of “Isiah(s)” in the world – they are the “critical, negative” ones that always believe that anyone that is successful has to have a hidden agenda because he has a negative, critical spirit living in him! Sam, DON’T DRINK THAT POISON! Because it is BITTER to the soul! Isiah is trying to poison your spirit! We all know that your character is well above that type of manipulation so forget about it and keep being SAM! p.s. I LOVE YOUR MONDAY MORNING INSPIRATION VIDEOS!

A friend once shared with me “What you think of me is none of my damn business.” Let Isiah B. go…he’s an asshole. You just keep being the powerful man you are. You will just want to be careful not to encounter Isiah’s idea of God (though I’m sure hew
would describe Him as loving and compassionate).

Hi Sam

I dont agree with what Isaiah said , my advice to you is to keep it real and if our prayers helped you during your time of bereavement , let him be , you know there a saying , everyone is entitled to his or hers own opinion , I think his a jerk , he should keep his negative opinions to himself.

Don’t take it to heart, some people are just that way. You can’t make everyone happy. It is what it is, his opinion doesn’t matter, he doesn’t know you. Just let it roll off your back. Your friends are here for you!

Dr. Sam,
Thanks for sharing. You have done more for me than you will ever know. Do what ever you need to do to stay strong. I appreciate you.
Endy

Some people are like that. However hurtful the words were, they are just words. Just move on, turn the page and know that you are loved by family and friends.

Be good

-Dimitri

In My option on Isiah responds is this God teaches us that we are our brothers keeper. Your business was not my main focus. My main concern was your well being.

Wow…can’t believe that you would get that kind of response…..move on, focus on your family and friends and don’t think twice about what he said.

Hey Sam, I’m just now reading your message as well as hearing about your families tragedy. My prayers go out to you. I really wanted to give you my opinion to that nasty message you recieved. You know you only have to please one person and thats, God. You’re right, we can’t please everyone! But only God knows how and why you did what you did, and honestly I don’t think you did anything wrong. I wouldn’t pay that guy any attention because if he knew anything about family and God, he wouldn’t have been so shallow and nasty! God Bless My Brutha!
Ray

Saman,

I was just trying to get a rise. You let a complete stranger do that. 19 years old at that. Shows you how vulnerable a person can be in heartace. Saman Bakhitar. I’ve been a complete fool. I sincerely ask for forgiveness from the bottom of my heart. I can’t believe I’d tested myself like this. You don’t deserve this. Please forgive me. And god bless your family.

Isiah,

I hope no one ever goes through what I went through. I am not going to lie I am/was so hurt by your comments.
I absolutely love kids. As a matter of fact looking and playing with my little one year old daughter is the only thing that kept me together this week.
One day when God blesses you with children and you hold your child it will completely change your life forever.
I don’t hold a grudge against you as I am not perfect myself. All we can do as humans is learn from our mistakes.
I thank you for apologizing and I accept your apology. May God Bless you and your family.

I don’t see how this tragedy would be a gain for business. You ask for help and prayers and I don’t have any problem with that at all. God bless.