My Son Didn’t Make it. Devastated

Very Sorry for your Loss – Praying for God’s Love and Support to surround you, my heart goes out to you all! I’m so sorry!

Hi Sam,

I just read your blog post. I am so sorry about your loss. I know this must be devastating, but you have to continue to stay strong. As I always tell myself, “If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.” I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Sam,
I’m extremely sorry for your loss, from what I see you’re a great person and a huge inspiration to many. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. If I can help you in any way please let me know.

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (NIV)

Sam. I wish there were words enough to comfort you both. But I know form experience that there are not. Know that you and your lovely wife are in my prayers. May god grant you both peace. Love to the both of you.

Sorry to hear about your loss. This happened to my wife and I when we first tried to get pregnant so I know the feelings that you may be going through. I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but God has a plan for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers go out to you guys. Keep your head up!

I am so sorry for your loss, Sam. I had the same thing happen to me half way through my first pregnancy, and it was beyond devastating. Now that I have been blessed with my son and daughter, I cherish every day I have with them. You’re right, God has a plan. Prayers and time will help heal your pain until His plan is made apparent. Until then, my advice would be to steal all the cuddles your daughter will let you steal and look to her for comfort. You and your family are in my prayers.

Sam,

I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss at this moment in time. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Damien

Dear Sam:

I can’t believe it. I am sad for you and your wife.

God has a plan that was laid down before the beginning of time. That does not help your breaking heart.

Kindest regards & prayers, MEG

I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.

Hey Sam,

Truly sorry to hear about that. Keep your head up and look to the future. You seem like such an amazing father and you will have a son soon enough.

My thought are with you.

Ian

I’m very sorry to hear about your loss and pain. While there are several things I would like to say about life and loss, joy and sorrow, I will choose silence and prayer at this moment. You will be in my heart this week.

Sam, my prayers are with you and your wife, I am so sorry to hear that. You are right, God does have a plan, sometimes we don’t know what that plan is but it is His plan. I recommend that you read the book of Job, it has put some things into perspective for me with my life when I go through things. I am here for you as a friend, not just an employee.
Jimmy Monroe

Sam,

I am truly sorry for your loss and in my opinion there isn’t anything anybody can say to ease the pain and sarow that one feels during a dificult time such as this, except to know that you have your family and friends for support and love……I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Regards,
Marcie

We lost our first baby. We don’t know if it was a boy or a girl. I didn’t want to know. We now have two beautiful boys. As you stated above, God has a plan. I truly believe that. I believe that God loves us and wants what is best for us. That doesn’t mean what we want or what is easiest. Truly the best sometimes hurts and stretches us more than we can imagine. He might have been saving your son from a lifetime of heartache, pain, a very short life that would have been even more devastating to you. You don’t know – only God knows. When your doctor says it’s ok, then try again. As you know, bodies are very complex. When things don’t get put together just right, for whatever reason, God says wait, let’s try this again later. Trust in his perfect wisdom and thank him for saving you and your son from what could have been something even harder to deal with. Who knows, maybe my baby needed someone else and God chose your little boy! Your son is perfect now – there’s no doubt about it! Don’t forget to cherish and give extra love to your princess. You know how fast life can be snatched away. Love your family with your whole heart every day! Then – no regrets! Praying for your comfort at this time of loss!

I’m so sorry for your loss… you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers!

You have such a precious Daughter, focus all your love on her…. Sorry for your loss…

Hey Sam,
So sorry to hear about your loss of baby-to-be. Hope you and your family can have a big collective hug and that everyone will be OK.
~ Robin Robertson

Sam,

I can’t even imagine what you must be going through and feeling right now. Like you said, God has a plan. Take all the time you need, keep that Faith and strength. Remember you are cherished by so many. Our hearts and prayers go out to you, Bailee and Johnette….and of course, your son. We love you so much. (Hugs) Love, Dee, Jay and Gia xoxo

Sam,

I am so sorry for both you and your bride. No words I can write can do anything for you right now, but later you will come to know that your son had another calling, and for that you can rejoice, for his destiny was too large for even the Bakhtiar dynasty.

Again, my friend, Neda and I are truly sorry for your loss.

Respectfully,

Joe

Sam and wife,
Our prayers and thoughts are with you at this time.
Russell, Liz and Family.

Sam,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss…my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Be well.

Sam….how sad. My heart dropped when I read your email…..I can’t even imagine how you feel.

There are lots of people who care about you that have gone through or are going through the same thing. I hope they reach out to you as well and can offer some first hand comfort and support.

You are in my thoughts.Take care of yourself and your lovely family.

Sarai Jones

well im very sorry to hear that. I would look at it as tho it could have been much worse tho. what i mean is that whatever health problems that the little guy had could have not surfaced until after he was born; and then he possibly would of spent months hooked up to a machine in the hospital and the pain for you and your wife would be about ten times what it is now simply because you both would of grown many times more attached and in love once he came out into the world. I would imagine that God didn’t want him or you and your wife to suffer thru all that so he took control of the situation. It may be a rough couple weeks for you coming up; but just stay strong and focus on the family that you do have to help you make it thru!

xoxo
dugan

I can not imagine how you feel. You have lovely family, great friends and are admired by many. In this difficult stage of your life the only advice I could give is look at the brighter side of life. You have so much and are a great person. I know you will pull through.

“Sometimes love lasts a moment.

Sometimes love lasts a lifetime.

Sometimes a moment is a lifetime.”

I am so sorry for your loss.

May God bless, you, your wife and your princess. Take care of each other and allow yourselves to heal and grieve.

I’m sorry for your lost. I feel your pain I lost my son at the age of 22 years old. To this day we dont know the cause of his death as a matter of fact his death certificate reads cause of death: Unknown. I had such a hard time trying to understand why my son was taken from me at such an early age. I spoke to Father Tom and he explained to me that Ryan was a gift from God and it was his time to go home. He also explained his work was done here on earth and to remember he will always be with me and his loved ones. Something that always helped me was to know that people were praying for Ryan and our family. Please know that I will pray for you, your son, and your family. God Bless!

Sam,
I am so sorry…this happened to us about 23 years ago…your wife will need you now more then ever before..Love and comfort her!! We know this pain!! And it will take a while to get over it!!

Hi dr saman I hope u get this message I am so heartbroken about ur loss tried to get the link on my blackberry but couldn’t and my computer crashed I lost my daughter six years ago I was six months pregnant I don’t have any other children the same thing happened she was sick and I miscarried the pain is devastating but time helps although u never forget or lose the love for ur child I am so so sorry I know the pain please tell ur wife I am here if u need to talk I went thru the same thing the heartbreak is something that can’t even be put into words my prayers are with u and ur family

Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Sam,

We were so, so saddened to hear about your loss and wanted to take a moment to let you know that you are in our thoughts and prayers during this tough time.

Sincerely yours,

Denise Carlquist
Prime Physique Fitness

I am really saddened. Have faith in God He will help you through this. Just be there for each other and together you both will be able to get over your pain.

Let me know if I can be of any help to you both

Take care
Tia

Sam,

I know exactly how you feel as I unfortunately experienced the same news, some 2 months ago. It hurt me tremendously and I cried for days.

How did I recover? My wife was the strength behind our loss and our FAITH in GOD was the shining light in our recovery.

Going to the Temple, in Chino Hills, brought us soooooooo much peace and tranquility and the understanding that all that we have is in God favor! He gives us ‘life’ and he ‘takes’ in return. The lesson to learn is that your time will come again, when he is in your ‘favor’.

You must not change who you are and the way you look at others. If you continue to see the goodness in yourself and others, do good to others, help others when they are in need, do not follow the path of financial greed, and so much more….He will reward you and your family with untold ‘favor’.

I truly believe that, to whichever God you pray and worship, his glory and power will be showered upon you if you learn to love and respect all those around you and all that God has created!

Their are many religions and only he created them…worth thinking about! He only asks that you learn, only FAITH will guide you through this ‘life’ and an open mind will allow him to reward you and your family with the blessings of his fruits!

I do not mean to preach any “word” to you, just an understanding of his ‘favor’ towards YOU!

Be strong my friend. If you wish, I would be more than willing to meet you and afford you the peace, tranquility and blessings of the Chino Hills Hindu Temple. Many have visited and felt ‘glory’.

Even today, the Warden of the Chino Prison, Aref Fakhoury, a good friend of mine, told me that after his recent visit, doing devotional prayers to the Lord with a pure and open mind, his family was granted his wish in that his brother did not have the Cancer that was diagnosed some 6 months ago. His brother came to NY to get tests and in Jordan, he was positive. The power of Prayer helps in family because they believed and were pure to their thoughts. It is said, that when you poor holy water onto the idol of the Lord, at our Temple, your PURE wishes are granted. This is a TRUE Story and he is from Jordon.

I am hear for you, always!

Sincerely,

Pranav “Peter” Patel

Dear Sam,
You and your family are in my heart and in my prayers.
God Bless and watch over you all at this ddifficult time.
Kelly Ross

Sam,
You don’t know me but my heart & prayers goes out to you and your family. I pray for your family and loved ones that some good might come from your grief. Your son is in paradise with God. Our hope is to be with him some day. Try to stay strong and the example you are.

Blessings,

Warren Ray

Hi Sam,
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss… my thoughts go out to you and your wife and daughter. Unfortunately I am very familiar with such a tragedy and can relate to how you and your family must be feeling. I lost my first child – a daughter- a few weeks before her due date. She would’ve turned 5yrs old this December. No one really tells you such things can happen – as it is understandable and unthinkable that it may happen – but we were completely blind sided. I hope that you and your wife will find some comfort in the coming days. One thing I’ve learned is that you never completely heal, you just learn to live with a part of your heart missing. But days will get easier and you will smile again.

I also happen to volunteer time to an organization called OC Walk To Remember (www.ocwalktoremember.org) – every October they hold a memorial walk for all the babies that have been lost to pregnancy or infant loss. Last year was the first year I participated in the walk and it was such a nice way to honor and remember my daughter. Also there is a national organization called SHARE (www.nationalshareoffice.org) – I found comfort in the support I found on the message boards for all these parents really understand. Some say that since the baby wasn’t born, it wasn’t much of a loss, but we know that they were very much a part of this world than any other child. I am so very sorry.

Frances Fendors

Sorry to hear!
MAY THE LORD BLESS YOUR FAMILY!

“There is never anything anyone can say that can help with the pain in the loss of a Loved one. It is never easy for those of us left behind. My hubby and I lost a lil one as well no heartbeat and that was very emotional. But I know that the Lord knew what we could and could not handle.He is in control and with him is where you will find your peace.I will say a prayer …that God may give you and your family strength in this time. God Bless”

Terribly sorry to hear your news, I lost my first son at birth so understand your loss. My thoughts are with you and your partner

Condolences

Stewart

Sam, Your family now has a little perfect angel that will be with you ALLWAYS. He will protect & love all of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Dear Sam, I sympathize with your pain. I am very sorry you and your family are going through this. There are no words that will minimize the pain of your loss.

I understand and know, as I went through the exact same situation 6 months ago. The only advise I can give you is to be there for your wife. If you are in pain, she is in worst shape than you are. May this situation make you guys stronger and closer to each other.

All my good energy goes out to you.

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I was deeply saddened to read today’s message from you, Sam. Losing a child is one of the saddest of life’s challenges. I wish I could find the words to ease your pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sam, there is no medicine like time, allow and give your heart time to heal. God has a beautiful plan for you and your family. Concentrate on the live that surrounds you. Take care and God bless friend.

Sam,

Jack and I send our deepest condolences we will keep you and your family in our prayers.

Sorry, for your loss, stay strong for the rest of your family. Don’t stop believing.
May God be with you and your family. In our prayers, the Bross’s, Michael & Rosa.

Sam, there is no medicine like time, allow and give your heart time to heal. God has a beautiful plan for you and your family. Concentrate on the love that surrounds you. Take care and God bless friend.

Dear Sam,

I am so sorry to hear the news. My heart goes out to you, Johnetta and Bailey. I’m sure words cannot describe what you all must be feeling. I will pray for peace and comfort for your family.

Sorry for your loss Sam stay strong, you and your family can get through this
I truly believe everything has path and god has a plan, keep your faith, bring your loved once close and together you will gain strength.

“My prayers are with you and your wife…Sorry to hear about this news Sam.”

When my father died in April, you told me “stay strong.” At first, the words seemed a little “off” to me, too detached. I didn’t get it. I wanted to be weak, break down, cry, huddle in a ball, or whatever. And, I did. A lot of times. But, then, I kept hearing your voice and those two words, over and over again. I thought about your strength, and your passion for life and cherishing every moment. I started saying the words to myself – “stay strong.” Eventually, they started to make more sense. I have to imagine that losing a child is harder than losing a parent, and my deepest sympathy and compassion goes out to you, Johnette, and your entire family. So, Sam, stay strong. We’re here.

Not sure what to say, but having experienced this, I share in your grief, offer my sympathies to you and your wife, and can only suggest that the greatest comfort will come from supporting and loving each other through this traumatic episode in your lives. I wish you peace, strength, and a strengthening of your faith in each other and in G-d.

Sam: I got your email, but the link wouldn’t go through. There’s nothing I can say to ease your pain, but know that our hearts are linked with yours. We don’t understand God’s ways, but we know we have a Father in Heaven who loves us! May He give you rest. Turn toward Him in your grief. Know that our prayers are with you!

With our love

We are very sorry for your loss. My mother loss her first child and had this event not happened, I would not be here. I was the accidental birth. So there is always hope! May God grant you and your wife a powerful peace during this challenging time.
Leland & Dolores

Never under estimate God’s love for you. Be assure that HE is with you and wants the best for you and your family. Your in my prayers.

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“:( My best wishes to you and your family….”

“Sam, we are so very sorry for your loss. Know that your family is in our thoughts and prayers”

“Sam i am so so so sorry to hear this. You’re an amazing man and great friend, stay strong brother.”

Sam,
For some reason I am not able to open the link, but I want to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. My wife and I went through this 26 years ago and there’s not much I can say except that I understand what you are feeling because I have been there. Your wife will especially need your understanding and support during this difficult time. It will be difficult for her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Roger Bangerter

Sam, we are so sorry to hear about your loss. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. God provides us with so many things and loss of a loved one reminds us just how precious our lives are to so many. Never forget the impact you make on each person you touch for you are truly blessed and an amazing person with so much to give.

Hi Sam, I am very sad and I want to help but was unable to get to the site. Could you email the link.

Hi Sam,

I’m really sorry to hear about your son. My heart goes out to you and Johnette. You may have lost your son in this life, but he will be yours forever and the time will come when you’ll have that blessing of seeing him and raising him as one of your precious child. This may sound strange,but I know your son has accomplished so much in his pre mortal existence that he doesn’t need to go through this life. He was merely passing through this mortal sphere and he chose you and Johnette to assist him in that transition. I also know that God is very much aware of what you and Johnette are going through. He has great love for both of you and you are blessed to be surrounded by people who loves and cares about you guys.

I’ve known you for almost 10 years now Sam. I’ve seen you evolved from that of being a party guy to a very dedicated husband and father to your daughter. I very much appreciate that in you. You are a wonderful man, and a wonderful friend. I don’t have much to offer but words of comfort. Take care Sam and know that my prayers are with you and your family.

Always,

Andy

Sam,

This sounds like a flashback of my life! I went in for my last appt, was on the ultrasound, saw my son, (9 mos) no heartbeat! There will be no words anyone can tell your wife that will make this make ANY sense at all. It is going to be a grieving process and you are her will never forget that son.

sorry Sam, love is the great weapon we have from me and my family we love send our love to yours.and may the LORD be with you during this time with the strength to go one more day. robert

Dear Saman,

Please accept my condolences along with contemplation seed from Rumi that has helped me in similar situations.

Vishtasb

روزها فکر من اینست و همه شب سخنم

که چرا غافل از احوال دل خویشتنم

از کجا آمده ام، آمدنم بهر چه بود؟

به کجا می روم؟ آخر ننمایی وطنم

مانده ام سخت عجب، کز چه سبب ساخت مرا

یا چه بوده است مراد وی ازین ساختنم

جان که از عالم علوی است، یقین می دانم

رخت خود باز برآنم که همانجا فکنم

مرغ باغ ملکوتم، نیم از عالم خاک

دو سه روزی قفسی ساخته اند از بدنم

ای خوش آنروز که پرواز کنم تا بر دوست

به هوای سر کویش، پر و بالی بزنم

کیست در گوش که او می شنود آوازم؟

یا کدامست سخن می نهد اندر دهنم؟

کیست در دیده که از دیده برون می نگرد؟

یا چه جان است، نگویی، که منش پیرهنم؟

تا به تحقیق مرا منزل و ره ننمایی

یک دم آرام نگیرم، نفسی دم نزنم

می وصلم بچشان، تا در زندان ابد

از سرعربده مستانه به هم در شکنم

من به خود نامدم اینجا، که به خود باز روم

آنکه آورد مرا، باز برد در وطنم

تو مپندار که من شعر به خود می گویم

تا که هشیارم و بیدار، یکی دم نزنم

شمس تبریز، اگر روی به من بنمایی

وا… این قالب مردار، به هم در شکنم

مولانا

My friend Sam,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can’t imagine how you feel. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Be well.

Shihan

I am so very sorry for your loss. God Bless You and your family during this very difficult time.

All my prayers and thoughts go with you during this difficult time!
Always, Lydia

Sam,

I am so sorry to hear this, my sincerest condolences to you and your family. We send you our prayers, much strength and faith.

God Bless,
Richard

sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you and your family

Sam,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you. God Bless.

~ Lisa & Fred

Sam, I am so sorry…

It is and will be a difficult time, and only time shall heal the wound which you now face. I shall pray for you and your family, and hope you shall overcome, overtime the grief which you now feel.

Dear Dr. Bakhtiar,

I’d like to offer you and your wife my condolences. I’m very sorry to hear about your loss. I wish you and your wife many blessings, and the both of you will be in my prayers. Time and time again you hear that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes that reason is not revealed until later in life. As difficult as this experience may be, trust and have faith in the being that has created us. Your child may not have made it to this plane this time, but his spirit is with you and he will make it when the time is right.

I wish you much love and light,

Wanda

We are so sorry to hear the news. Your family is in our prayers. May the Lord provide you with the strength and faith to get through this diffucult time.

Sam, oh my God…what can I say. I want to express my deepest condolences but I know even that is won’t give ur heart comfort. I just pray that you and your family will get through this difficult time and come out stronger. I know
that I have never experienced a loss like this before so I’m not even going to act like I have but if there is anything at all that I can do like listen and be here for you as your friend, you know how to reach me. Be real good to your wife at this time and give her a hug for me as well.

Sami;
very sad and sorry to hear this, hope and know you will cope with it, it just takes the toll out of you and your wife.
Remember that when God closes one door, he’ll definitely open another one.You yourself can attest to that and now you have the beautiful Bailee.

My condolences to your family. I am so sorry for your loss. It may seem impossible now, but the grief will lessen with time. Try to think of a way to honor your son – you could plant a tree, donate a book in his name, or do any number of things to ensure that others do not forget him.

So sorry to hear that Sam, my prayers are with you and your family.

Sam, my friend, father of 2 boys and this hits home brother. My deepest condolences. Lil Sam is away from pain now and with our father above. Our prayers go out to you and your family.

Sam,
Please know you and your family are in my prayers. You are such an inspiration to so many people and so many of these people care about you too. “Why do Bad things happen to Good People” only God know. We just have to trust him and sometimes that’s so hard to do.
In Gods Love,
Diane

Sam,
I am sorry to hear of your loss.You and your wife are in the thoughts and prayers of many people. I encourage you to just believe in the good things to come and stay strong.

Sam,

I am very sorry to hear what happened to you and your wife. Hang in there, this too will pass. Let God bring peace to you and your family.

My daugher of 6 years old passed away few years ago so I know exactly what you are going thru.

My prayers are with you

Sam-

I cannot possibly imagine how you and your wife must be feeling right now. I will pray for your peace and comfort in your time of loss and grief. Although we don’t understand how and why things happen just know that GOD is near you and around you even in this time. Cry out to Him and he will show you great and mighty things that you do not know. Jer 33.3

Take care my friend
Monty Miller

Hi Sam,

My love and best wishes go to you and your lovely family, and my condolences for your loss. You are such a wonderful person, passionate about what you do to help others and have reached out to me not even knowing me which I have so appreciated. I hope you make it through this difficult time with peace in your hearts and come out the other side of it stronger as a family.

Much love,

Courtney <3

I’m very sorry for your loss. However, I’m more sorry that you’d blog about tragedy and send mass emails to people you don’t even know like me. Why the hell do you need to let the world know about your unborn son? How the hell are blog posts going to help you deal with something like this? Only family and god can be of use here, isn’t that obvious? I can’t help but feel like by doing this you’re helping your business and your name. Good god some people. Look! Now your making yourself vulnerable to people like me. I’m not heartless I’m just not fucking buying it.

Dear Sam:
My deepest condolences go to you and your family during this difficult time. My prayers go out to you and I hope they will grant you and your loved ones some comfort. You now have an angel watching and loving you from above.

Sam…I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I can say something to make you feel, but there are no words. I always say that God does things for a reason. I’m sure he has a plan for you and your wife. My family and I will keep your family in are prayers.

Sam,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife. I hope you feel the love that so many people have for you and it will easy some of the pain.
Gabriela

Sam, my heart is breaking for you and Johnette. There are no words for how devestating this is. Our hearts are with you now.

Dear Dr. Sam,
My condolences to you and your family. May you take some comfort in the thoughts and prayers on your behalf.
SoL Shapiro

Sam

My wife Pamela and I send prayers to you and your wife. If there’s anything we can do to support you at this time please let me know. Although many of us on this blog may have never experienced this personally we all share your pain.

Ron

Sam, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. There are no words any one can say or do to take the pain away. I wish there were. I love what Tony says “you now have an angel watching and loving you from above” so true. Just know you have a lot of friends who care about you and the pain your family is going through at this time.

Sam, I’ll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. So sorry for your loss.

My prayers are with you and your family.

Sam -
I can’t hardly imagine how you must feel, nor do I want to. Just know that you have a lot of friends and supporters our there and I am one of them. Let me know if I can do anything.

Dear Sam,
This is tragic! I am so very sorry to hear this news. You and your family have me deepest condolences and I will keep you all in prayer.
With much sympathy,
April Garcia

Sam,

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful wife during this trying time in your lives.

Sam, I am so sorry to hear the bad news. My prayers are with you and your wife. I have been down that road myself. At 18 weeks I went in for an ultrasound to find out the sex of my second child. Instead, I found out that my baby had died weeks earlier. I was devastated. If it is any consolation, I have been told that most women will miscarry atleast once. I am sure you will be blessed with another child in the near future. We ended up naming a star after our unborn child as a way to honor her and bring us closure.

Sam,

I got your email and my wife is preganent with our second and I can’t even image what it would be like if this happen to us. Like you mentioned God has a plan and I believe he will bless you. My prayers go out to you and your wife. God Bless

Danny Gomes
Serving you with Honor

Sam, I am very sorry to hear this. It is so devastating and my prayers are with you and your family.

Blessings,

Kymberly

Sam,

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I am praying for you and your family.

May the Lord give you peace.

Liz

I too have lost children, one unborn and one I had to give birth to at 5 months along. My thoughts are with you but find comfort in knowing that you unborn was not healthy enough to finish forming and come in to the world. Healthy would have reached term, nature knows how to handle these things too. Find solace in the knowledge that when your next child arrives, it will be a healthy one. i understand yur pain, georgette

Sorry about your loss. I feel for you and your wife!!!! I can’t imagine what that feels like. I wish you the best.

Molly

May this inspirational poem help you all through these difficult times. You are so helpful and inspirational to everyone with your words of advice on fitness.

Little Angel Unknown

A little angel unknown I, am, my place is as an angel in a secret land.
I didn’t have a name as such, you didn’t get the chance,
I wasn’t meant to live on earth just touch you by the hand.
I’ve been sent to touch your lives and I know you’ll think that cruel,
but its only special people that are chosen exceptions to the rules.
I knew you would love me from the very start,
from that first sighting & beating of my tiny heart,
so I know that it will hurt you that you have to say goodbye,
but I am your guardian angel now and I’ll dry the tears from your eyes.
I’ll be there by your side wherever you now go,
I will hear you speak of me often & what I might have been if I’d grown,
I’ll be the special angel in the picture that you have,
I’ll remind you of my sister and mom
I’ll have your little features all of you as one
& I’ll love you always as my special dad.
You might not have got to see me as a living breathing thing,
but I’ll be the ribbon around your heart and my love will be deep within,
this pleasure I promise will be mine,
to be your guardian angel from now until the end of time.
I’ll gift you with my presence every night within your dreams,
walk always as your special unknown angel
gifted to you within just for a short while,
so think of me often and smile,
For I, am your very own special unknown gifted child.

Hi Samman jan,

I am so sorry for your loss. I am heartbroken for you and your wife. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sam and family-
Although I dont think anybody could fathom the emotion that you have right now. From my limited experiences with you over the years, I know that you are a person with a strong heart and a good head to make it through this. My condolences to you and your family, for your loss. Be there for one another and celebrate life. You and your family are in my prayers.
God Bless

Hi Sam,
I’m very sorry to hear about your baby , especially when we were just talking about the him.
Our deepest condolences during this sad and hard time. We will keep you and your lovely wife in our prayers and ask the lord to give you comfort and grant you strength.
If you need anything please lets us know,
Diana and Daniel Flores

Sam,
I am so sorry for the loss you have all endured. I personally know that its not easy now, but it does get easier,,,its been 19 years since my son passed and it still ther on my mind but,,,,he is living in a much better place than we are and I always tell my other 3 sons that god needed a new angel and chose Kerry! God bless all of you and if either of you need advice on how to cope or just to talk PLEASE call me.

Sam & Jeanetta:
I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers.
God bless!

Hi Sam,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss,a friend of mine that I work with just lost their baby also a few months ago, he was only 3 weeks old. I know it must be a struggle to try and understand why this has happened and take an incredible amount of strengh to move on. My prayers are with you and your wife.

Hey Sam,

Sorry to hear about your loss my prayers go out to you and your family. Stay up my friend!

My prayers and thought are with u and you’re famly be strong The God has a bigger plan hang in there

We are so sorry to hear that. We’ll keep you and your Family in our Prayers.

am, We I are very sorry for your loss and our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Gus &Lori

“There are no words that will ease the pain but I will pray that the Lord comfort and strengthened you and your wife. I am glad that you have friends that will be there for you.
Close friends, shower them with love but don’t be a pest. Sometimes the greatest help is being there but doing it silently. I don’t know why this has happened to you, but I do know that resting in the knowledge that Jesus loves you and has promised to be with you through this is real.”

“Hey Sam and Johnette, we are very sorry for any pain that you are going through at this time. You’re in our thoughts and prayers.”

Dear Sam and Johnette,

There are no words really that can take your pain away at this time…just know that we are thinking of you both…the Lord has known us all before we were born…know that the soul of your son was known before he was conceived by his creator and now he is in His Father’s arms…

Corinthians 2:9
“ Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,
Nor have entered into the heart of man
The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”

We love you both,
Scott and Kim

Sam…all too often bad things happen to good people. The reasons for these events are unclear and unfair. Do they make us stronger people? I suppose in the long run they do, yet we feel very weak and helpless acutely. Do we ever forget or fail to remember these challenging days? Probably not. However, perhaps the hardest times and days remind us of how much we really do have in our lives. We have our friends and our families, our health and our good fortune. Our strength and our wisdom. We continue to support one another hoping that we personally should not have to suffer a similar fate. How selfish and yet how heart broken are our thoughts when one of our friends is touched by such an unthinkable event. On days like this I have found that going home and reading a book to my own daughter and giving her a hug before she goes to sleep helps me understand the importance of what we do as parents, Sam. We provide hope and direction for those who count on us to do so. Your family is counting on you to guide them through this maze of uncertainty. I know you will make them proud. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Jeff Unger, MD

“Sam, I am so sorry for your loss. I am so sad thinking about what you and your wife must be feeling. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.”

“my heart goes to you guys….we lost my unborn my little nephew this year too before he was born so I know how hard it is for you guys….we will offer our prayers for you all and know that your son is in Jesus’ heaven and playing with other angels now. Cry if needed; take some time off to hug and love each other even more deeply and keep your faith strong…peace and love”

Hey Sam, sorry to hear it. Our hearts are with you. “

“I am so very sorry to hear what happened. My heart goes out to you and your family and you are in my prayers!”

Hey Sam. I actually just called your office. I didn’t expect to get you but I am totally sorry and really wish I could give you a brotherly hug right about now.

I was watching Kung Fu panda with my daughter Isis as I saw your email about your unborn child.

With all the happiness and expectation of bringing a brand new life in this world it is beyond devastating that someone such as you that brings health and joy to others has to endure such pain.

Sam I can truly say that my heart goes out to you and your beautiful family.

Hugs can heal and I am sorry that I am not there to show some love but find comfort in your family and those you can reach out to immediately

I am totally shocked and just stunned.

Bless you my brother and we all will shed blessing your way

PEACE,

Nii

“Sammy~ my thoughts and prayers are with you and your beautiful family. May God comfort all of you. I’m so sorry for your loss.”

Sam,
Losing a child before it is even born is one of the hardest things I ever went through. I was four months pregnant, and as with you, went in for a routine ultrasound. My baby was no longer alive. I don’t know how far along your wife was in the pregnancy, but it really doesn’t matter…you have a beautiful little girl; a beautiful wife; and you too have a beautiful soul.

I was by myself when I found out; I called my husband to come and be with me at the doctor’s office. I trusted my O.B. GYN and still do today, but asked for a second opinion. I went to the hospital and again…no heartbeat.

There is nothing I can say or do to make you feel better right now; but I will give you a heads up on what to expect with this roller coaster of emotions that you are currently going through. The due date of the baby will be another difficult reminder of what you have just gone through. Be there for your wife because we tend to blame ourselves for “fetal demise.”

I had to go in the next day and have a DNC. I asked my OB/GYN to let me know if it was a boy or a girl. He wasn’t able to tell me what the sex of my baby was. I think it would have been easier to know because I would have been able to give him/her a name.

If you and your wife are up to it; you can ask to hold your baby. I wasn’t able to do that, but wish that I had. Depending on the age of your baby, you may ask the nurses for a lock of his hair. It may sound hurtful with me just blurting it out, but all parents who lose a child will go through their own form of grieving. If you and your wife agree, you can have a service for your child. Release balloons to symbolize your love and connection with your child. Talk about your loss with your wife. Many men grieve on their own, but you are also a couple who has just lost something special, that your love and caring made into a “beautiful little boy.”

You don’t have to act like everything is okay and it may take months for you to get all your grief out. Remember that you have each other and you have that beautiful little girl.

This little boy is and will always be “your son.” Someday, you and your son will be reunited. You will then have a chance to get to know this precious little boy and will never be seperated again.

I know that I don’t know you well; I know this hurts like hell and you can’t even think about tomorrow; but it will get better for you and your family. Four months after we lost our baby, I was pregnant with our third son. We have been blessed with 5 children, but only three of our children have ever walked on this Earth.

I have a special necklace that I wear to keep my other two children, close to my heart. You and your wife will do what you feel is right for you; you will survive this terrible loss; and your family will continue to thrive.

Hold on tight to each other; don’t be afraid to show your feelings; remember that you are not alone.

If I can help you in any way, please feel free to call me. If your wife needs to talk to someone who has gone through this; feel free to give her my number or e-mail address.

My family and I are very sorry for your loss. Please let us know if you need a shoulder to cry on; or just a big hug. We are here for all of you…

Our love and prayers are with you and your family.

Kelly

Dear Sammy-my heart is heavy thinking about what you and your wife are going through…I pray God wIll help you through this, giving you strength and peace…I am so sorry for your loss, and will continue to think of you.”

“So sorry Sam. Best wishes for you and your family.”

Sam, remember nothing is too difficult for Him. Therefore, He can help us carry that burden, face that obstacle or make it through that trial. He can do things we can’t do. We need to stop trying to do it all ourselves and turn to Him in TRUST and FAITH. “Is anything too hard for the Lord?” Genesis 18:14

Get on your knees and give him your burden and pain, cry, it’s okay.

May the Lord smother you and your wife in peace, comfort, and His perfect love. I’ll be praying for you and your family.

God bless.

My sincere condolences to you, to your wife, to your family….your son is an angel that God needed right now…but some day, you will meet him in heaven.

LORENA

Sorry to hear about what happened. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

So sorry to hear of your loss! Continue to lean on the Lord; He will comfort you through this. Hope you can feel my embrace. I will be thinking of you & your wife.”

so very sorry for your loss

Sam,

I am deeply saddened about your loss. My thoughts are with you and Johnette.

Rich Ward

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife. I hope you feel the love that so many people have for you and it will easy some of the pain.
Gabriela

“Hey Sam – I’m sending up prayers for you but if you’d like me to pray for you over the phone, please call me at 678-525-6347. I’ll be asleep in an hour but I can definitely call you tomorrow if you’d like. Let me know.”

Sam, I am sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. God has a plan and reason for everything. Trust in him. Time will heal all wounds

Sorry to hear. My prayers are with you & your family.

I’ve been where your at brother and I know the pain is so heavy.
My Faith in Christ is what got me through such a unimaginable time.

Your Son and mine are with the Heavenly Father and we will be reunited with them one day!

Praise God for that, even though your heart aches now. You will feel such joy at your reunion
but for now hold your family close and remember:
Deuteronomy 6:5
Love the LORD your God with all your heart and
with all your soul and with all your strength.
Your family is in my prayers sir.

Michael

I am truly sorry for your loss brother,
Prayer helps, I will pray for you and your wife,

My prayers are with you and your family. Gods speed my dear friend.”

Dear Dr. Bakhtiar,

I’d like to offer you and your wife my condolences. I’m very sorry to hear about your loss. I wish you and your wife many blessings, and the both of you will be in my prayers. Time and time again you hear that everything happens for a reason. Sometime that reason is not revealed until later in life. As difficult as this experience may be, trust and have faith in the being that has created us. Your child may not have made it to this plane this time, but his spirit is with you and he will make it when the time is right.

I wish you much love and light,

Wanda

“Sam, my deepest sympathies. I will keep you & your family in my prayers. I tried to leave a comment with the link you sent but it wasnt working. Again I am so sorry.”

“Sam
- You and your wife are in my prayers. May the Lord tend to your grief
and show you His everlasting love at this heart wrenching time in you
life.”

“Sam, sorry to read the news. My wife and I went through the same thing a couple years ago. Went for a routine and and they said the fetus had no heartbeat and had stopped developing. And to make matters worse, it apparently happened because of the doctor taking my wife off a medicine that she should have remained on. Completely broke our hearts. Luckily, 3 months later we found she was pregnant again and 9 months later gave birth to my oldest son.

No certain words ever made me feel better about it. All I know is that for me, I just had to believe that God had a reason for it and have faith that it would happen when the time is right. Just be thankful for the beautiful wife and daughter you have and have faith in Him. God Bless”

I’m so sorry for you and Johnette. I am a Christian and because of that, I trust God, even when it’s hard to see HIS plan. I can only imagine how devastating this is.

Hold on to your love for each other and your very healthy baby girl, Bailee. It’s possible that something was going wrong, so God took care of it now instead of sending you a lifelong burden. I know you love that baby just as much as Bailee.

God will give you another blessing. My mom lost one before me and had my little sister also.

I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers.

“There is nothing any of us can say that will ease your family’s pain. Just hold on to your belief that God will see you through this. I will be praying for you and your family.”

I’m so sorry to hear such sad news but go into prayers and talk to our heavenly father my husband and I lost two pregnancy before we finally had our daughter it took time to heal but remember God is a loving God and he knows all things I will pray for you and your family

Sam,

I am so sadden to hear this news. This child will become the guardian angel for your subsequent children. I know this because my older brother who died after 12 hours of life is my guardian angel. I pray for you and your wife that you may find peace in knowing he is with God.

Heartfelt wishes,

Janet

Sam,
You and your family are in my prayers.
Mitch

“Dam Sammy. I’m sorry to hear that. God will never give you nothing you can’t handle, so stay STRONG like I know you are. You guys are always on my prayer list, but tonight I will say a special one for you and your wife!!!! I LOVE YOU BABY!!! Hit me up if you want to talk,and give your wife a BIG HUG for me and tell her I Love her too!!! Your boy for life Kirk. Kiss Bailee for me to.”

My Prayers for peace & strength are with you and your family, may your faith guide you to place of hope, as you cope with such a tough loss!”

So sorry! We’re praying for you!

My deepest and most heart felt sympathy to you and your wife, I regret to tell you that my wife and I went through it as well, four years ago. If there is anything we can do, please don’t hesitate.
The link you posted did not function.

I am so very sorry Sam. What terrible news. You can ask my advice on any part of the burial process.
thanks, Tim

Sam,

I am very saddened by your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Johnette.

Maggie

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife. Remember we all love you and are here to support you

“Our love and prayers are with you and your family Sam.”

Hi Sam,
I am so sorry to hear about your baby. The very first pregnancy I had 15 years ago ended the same way. It is devastating. Give yourselves time to be together, without other family, etc., and mourn. Know that well-meaning people who love you may say some pretty unsupportive things, like “You’ll have another,” etc. Try to be patient with them and with yourselves. Most importantly, talk to each other about the miscarriage – as much and as often as you need to – until you feel like life is normalizing again. If you decide to try to get pregnant again, do it in your time, not others’.

Hope this helps. BTW, I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, so if you need any other support, please contact me.

God Bless you both,
Lisa

Dear Saman,
I am always reading your links and watching your little girl grow without ever contacting you or adding my comments, I just enjoy what you are doing. Today my heart goes out to you both on the loss of your baby boy. Find comfort in Mother Nature that sometimes if things are not quite right, she determines what is best. You are both young healthy and strong and when the time is right there will be another. Find strength in each other, thinking of you both.

Sam-

I am so sorry to hear about this. I can only imagine what you are going throught at this point. Just believe that everything happens when it is supposed to happen and there was probably a reason for this. Your a great person and I am sure God is looking out for your best interest, it just takes us time to realize what it is.

Be strong because your wife needs your support and strength.

Venay

“Sorry to hear the news Sam. Thinking of you and your family. take care.”

I’m very sorry for your loss. I had the same nightmare happen to me and my wife over 18 years ago now. She went full term within 5 days of do date. There are no words that will help, with that said your son is lost and now in the hands of God, but never forget him. I built a little memorial in my hallway of my house so I walk past my daughter everyday many times so I don’t forget her.

God bless you and your family during this very difficult time.

Ken

Hi, even though we never met, I just wanted to tell you I am so sad to hear about your unborn baby son. My daughter is pregnant and she is due next month I can’t even imagine the pain. You are in my prayers… be strong and even stronger for your wife. She needs your support and God bless you both!!!
Alejandra

So sorry Sam! please send me regards to Johnette. I hope things get easier
and better. The link to “click here and help” didnt work not sure why but
it said it was a broken link. Wish you luck in the future.

So sorry and you are with our prayers,
love to you and your family,
Polina

Hello Sam,

My heartfelt prayers goes out to you and your wife. May the God of all comfort give you the strength to see you through these days, weeks, months, and years to come. Look to Him and he will give you peace…..I say this by experience, but no words can talk away the pain at this time…..but, God is with you.

God Bless
Shirley

Hello Sam, Just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you and your family. The Bible says that God will never leave you nor forsake you. I pray God’s peace surround you and comfort you through this time.. Im sorry to hear that.

God Bless You,

Dear Sam,
You have experienced a great disappointment when you’ve been so excited about having your second child…a son. I extend my sincere sympathy and please extend my condolences to Johnette. You both know you have the support of your loving family and many friends; please let me know what I can do to help.

Oh my goodness Sam. I am SO SO sorry to hear the news. You and your wife are in my prayers. We are still trying to get pregnant no luck thus far. We are putting it in Gods hands!

Take care!
Alycia

“Sam…. my prayers are with you & your family……”

Oh Sam! I am so sorry to hear about your loss!! This is a time to turn to your family and friends! I just wish there were magic words that can help you but there are just not. After I lost my husband, it took a long time to heal the heartache. You are in my prayers!

Kathi

Words cannot express how sorry I am to hear of your loss, no parent should suffer this.

Sam, I am so sorry about your son. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless. Sylvia Ramos

Dearest Sam & Johnette,
My mom called me like 5 minutes ago (she got email b4 me) she sends her love and me too! Love u guys much!!! Anything I can do don’t hesitate! My heart is with you!
Auntie Shahla

Condolences & Prayers to you and your family.

With Love

“My deepest sympathies to your family~I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, I tried connecting to your blog but it is not working~”

Sam,

I am so sorry for both you and your bride. No words I can write can do anything for you right now, but later you will come to know that your son had another calling, and for that you can rejoice, for his destiny was too large for even the Bakhtiar dynasty.

Again, my friend, Neda and I are truly sorry for your loss.

HI Sam,
I tried responding to this via the link, but it wouldn’t open.
I am so sorry for your loss. That has happened to us, and it is
devastating. I had to grieve this to get through it. I finally found peace
in knowing I’d see my unborn baby in heaven. My youngest daughter was only 6
when this happened and she’s the one that reminded me of that. God is good to help
us through this devastation.
I pray peace for you, Johnette and Bailey.
Blessings,
Leeanne

I am soooooo sorry for your loss Sam! My prayers r with you!

Hi Dr. Sam ~ I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Trust in your higher source from strength, comfort and understanding. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time.

sam,

I am so sorry to hear about your unborn son. I can’t imagine how you must feel. Unfortunately, God works in mysterious ways and although we don’t always understand why he does the things he does, we have to keep faith that he needed your son for something very important. Please extend my condolences to your wife. Stay strong and take care.

Brenda

Sam,

Just a quick note to let you know our prayers and thoughts are with you at this time.

Russell, LIz and Family

Sam,

I am very sorry for you and your wife’s loss. My husband and I went through the same thing before our beautiful Zoe blessed our lives. I guess she just wasn’t quite ready to leave heaven, just like your little one. But, don’t worry he will return to the both of you.

Laura

Hi Sam -

Just know you and your family are in my prayers, and I pray for you and your family to have the space to grieve and heal during this time – I am so sorry to hear that this happened.

Regards -
Kathleen

The comment did not go through Sam, but my heart breaks for your and your family.

All I have is words Sam and word won’t heal your pain.

I am so sorry.

Kindest regards always, MEG

Hey Sam,

That is so sad. I lost a child from a cheating wife after 1 year I found out it was not mine. It was like she died. I feel for ya brother… Your a strong man, you will get through it.

Regards Ken

“Hi Sam,

I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I will keep you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers at this time! May you find comfort in God at this time.

Love to you both

Laura”

“Sam, my deepest sympathies. I tried to connect 2 ur blog via my phone..buy it didn’t work..
Sending love thoughts and healing energies to you and your family
Xoxo”

I’m so sorry for your loss. May God bless you and your family and be with you during this difficult time.

Tried the link but got an error.

Lidia

So sorry for you, my thoughts and prayers will be you and your family.

Kathy

‘m so sorry, Sam. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife.

Sam

There are no words to say, my heart is broken for you. You and you wife are such beautiful people, I know God has a plan for you. I will pray for you.

Love always

Edy (Shahla MOM)

Sam I am “so” sorry to hear that my heart and prayers go out to you and Johnette

Again I’m “so” sorry!

Sorry to hear that I will say a prayer for you an ur family.

“Sammy, I am so sorry to hear this. Please tell your wife that my thoughts are with both of you right now. It is difficult to lose a child at any stage and I am speaking from experience. Please let me know if I can be of any support.”

Hi Sam,
I am so sorry about the loss of your son. Please know that you , Johnette and Bailee are in my thoughts. I wish that I had words to help you and your family to ease your pain. You have my deepest sympathy.

Love
Hiromi

“I’m sorry for your loss Sam. There is a plan out there for your family, you will not be given more than you can bear.”

Sam,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Steve and I have lost 2 in the first trimester. It’s never an easy thing to handle or deal with. I found comfort in knowing it was God’s will and there’s a reason for everything. May God give you and your family, strength during this hard time. God Bless~

Sam I am SOOOOOO Sorry I just read it and my heart dropped I didnt even know I was gonna be an uncle again. And this time I wouldve gotten my nephew.
Tell Taz that you guys will be in my thought and prayers.
I love you guys
Big Unk Stephon

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Johnette.

Brandon and Leeanne

I’m so sorry for your loss. If there is anything I could do to assist let me know.

There is a plan for everything and this will be hard. Keep the faith and this will pass.

Take care of your Bailee, Johnette, and yourself.

I’ll be praying for you and your family.

-Dimitri

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28.
Trust in the Lord. And countinue to stand on His word in spite of it all……. May God bless you and your family.

All lost are hard to deal with but flesh and blood is the hardest of all to get through. My prayers will be sent for you and yours.

Dr. Sam,

Your wife needs you now more than ever. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family.

God Bless,

Lawrence Renteria

iM SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR LOSS , MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY TO YOU AND YOU FAMILY , KNOW THAT YOU WILL BE IN MY PRAYERS.

Sam and family

So sorry to hear about this bad news and I cannot offer any words that will soften it except to say like all these other friends I am here for you and offer you support and love to your family at this time.

Mike

x

Deepest sympathy to you and your family, our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Robert and Suzanne

Know that Alissa and I are praying for you today and will put you in our prayer journal. We love and care about you and your family.

God bless, and all our love,

Jeremy and Alissa Nelms

Sam – There are simply no words that could possibly comfort you and your wife right now, though comfort will come in time. I am deeply, deeply sorry for your loss. Though I cannot know your pain, I do understand it as I too lost my son, only after he walked the planet for some time. As a man, we will never know any greater joy, nor any greater pain as we do at the gift and the loss of our child. My heart wishes for yours a continued healing as you and your wife grieve through your loss. Sending much love your way, broither. – Robb

Spent the last 1/2 hour crying reading all the beautiful words & poems…So much love coming your way!<3

Sam,

I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you and your family are doing ok. In times like these I like to think that the world just wasn’t ready for him yet.

Hey Sam, Just Read about your son…….Words can not express the saddness I feel for your family. Take all the time you need. God does have a plan and he will make it alright! Keep your head up.

Hey Sam, although years and miles have seperated us, you are still one of the best friends I’ve ever had in my life. I’ve had a tear in my eye ever since I read your post last night. I’m not going to pretend I know what to say, because I don’t, but as I read back at all these posts, you have a lot of people going to God on your behalf. That can and WILL have an effect on how you and your family get through this terrible time. I will pray that the Lord gives you comfort in knowing that your son is with him in Heaven. I Love You Sam, Doug Rodgers.

I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family

So sorry to hear your news. My prayers our with you and your family.

Sam,

We are very sorry to hear about your loss. Please convey our deepest sympathy to your wife also. At the end when we have no control over this, we have to tell ourselfs “it’s God almighty’s wish”. I am sure Almighty have a wonderful plans for your family in future. Please keep continue doing the great work.

We pray that Almighty gives all of you the strength to come out of this stronger. Please have a faith.

Love,
Singh Family

Sam, I have never met you and I don’t know how we became facebook friends but I frequently read your posts and I have always thought that you have a good soul and are always offering advice to help people improve their lives. Well, while you have great advice for people, I have no advice that could help you and your family in this time of grief, except to say that my heart goes out to your family. Take care and know I appreciate you. Jimmy Weeks

Dr Sam,
I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your unborn son. My thoughts and prayers go out to you,Johnette and Bailee.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how horrible this is for you and your wife. I too have a son that is in heaven with Jesus. I was only 3 weeks away from delivery when the cord wrapped around his neck. I went through delivery, then got to hold him and say how much I loved him, and also, “good bye”. This was 14 years ago, and I still think of him everyday. Today I am blessed with a son and a daughter that I get to raise on this earth. My wonderful Erik is waiting for us in heaven.
Just know, that you and your family WILL see him one day in heaven. Until then, my deepest sympathy. I will pray for you.

As a preacher’s kid, God hasn’t just been a name but a relationship. He NEVER turns HIS back on us, but is there through it all. His promise is he will never give us something we can’t handle, although easier said then done. I have known several families who in fact have lost children either still born or at/after birth who have passed including my own brother. Every one of these, were blessed with another child if not twins. God is preparing you for a BIGGER blessing! I’ve too heard it said that through every adversity lies a seed of equal or GREATER benefit! Faith it!

May God’s comfort and rich
blessing of abundance be upon you and your family. Jim

Dr. Sam and Family,

I am very sorry to hear that, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God works in mysterious ways and we do not understand why things happen the way they do, I hope you will keep your faith and trust that he has given you a special gift to always protect and watch over you. My deepest condolences.

Sincerely,

Marissa

Dear Dr. Sam;

My deepest sympathy to you and your wife. Regards,

Linda

“im so sorry for your loss…if you need anything at all hit me up..”

“You and your family are in my prayers…. God Bless you all”

Hi Sam
You and I don’t know each other very well. I only spoke to you briefly at Bedros’s Mastermind meetings in Las Vegas recently. But I do know of you and what I’ve learned that you are a kind man with a heart of gold who is willing to help so many out.

So all I can say is that I am sorry for your loss of your son. There are no words that can best describe the the feelings of sorrow you and your wife are feeling right now, so my words would not do anything to help console you.

I just hope that the both of you and your wife will move on with your lives and look forward to the future.

Things always happen for a reason, it’s just sad when bad things happen to good guys.

Billy

“I’m sorry for your loss. Your wife, you and family will be in my prayers. Your little angel is now in heaven. GOD BLESS.”

“lifting you and your family up in prayer, so sorry. God will get you through this, keep looking to Him for your comfort. “

Hey Sam,

My husband Chris and I went through this when I was 7 months pregnant. To say the least it is a devastating experience. Words are never enough and it is a pain that can not be truly understood unless you experience it yourself. In such a horrible time, look around you to take comfort in the fact of knowing how many people are around you loving, supporting, praying and thinking of your family. It is a comfort to your heart to feel that wrapped around you. God will bring you through this, I promise you…although you may not understand why or how, you will make it through this. You, your wife & daughter will all be closer for having experienced this and you will share a bond that is deeper and undescribable. Above all else, trust in your faith and eachother and turn to God for help and guidance. I will be thinking and praying for you all….

So sorry to hear about your loss. Do know we serve a awesome God and he will be there for you and your family. I have loss the two most dearest people in my life last year and all I can tell you is stay close to the lord. He is a healer, provider, comforter and the list does not end. Praise him at all times, through good times and bad. God bless!

how I can put the words together, to make you comfort, I know my
grandson he is in heaven, and you are the best father any child could have, and when God’s time you going have a one or two or more, be there for johnette, and keep your family together by been strong in your faith, peace be with you my only one
your mother

“Holding prayers for you now.”

“Hey Sam,
Heard the bad news. My condolences to you and your wife. I’m no religious guy, but I still like to think positive during times like this.
Grieve and move forward like the strong people we know you are. Terribly sorry.”

“Sam, I pray GOD will send His Spirit to comfort you and your family in this time of pain.”

“how can I say or do to make you and johnette ,only as a grandma
I know everything happen for reason, I know my grandson he is in heaven, God has his own way, we have to accept it, you are great parents,be there for each other and take care of Bailee, love you so much”

“I had a miscarriage, after I had given birth to my first child, Sarah. I couldn’t understand why, and I was devastated, heartbroken. Then, about 6 months later, I became pregnant again. I had my doubts, and my trepidations. After all, THIS child was NOT supposed to be the one I carried, or so I thought. I gave birth to my son Zachary. For twenty years now, I have been thanking Him for the joy of this wonderful boy [man]. I don’t know how life would have been without this amazing child of mine who has given me so much joy. If I had given birth to the one God took back, I never would have had Zach……
The pain is devasting…..I know. However, there are reasons for everything. sometimes we learn what those reasons are; sometimes we dont. But remember this, God knows the reasons. Trust him.
I will say my prayers for your family and hope that you will find strength and peace knowing your son will never suffer…”

“Keeping you and your family in my prayers”

“Prayers for your family. “

“Sorry for your loss sam. But just know that’s he’s now an angel watching over us,,,

“Very sorry to hear. I pray for strength for you and your wife.”

“You and your family are in my thoughts & prayers.”

“wow i am so sorry for loss…i will pray for you tonight…”

“Dear Sam,
I will pray for your son and your family. With everyone that is supporting you, I am confident that you will get through this. Take care of your wife and help her deal with the loss. God gives us only what he knows we can handle.”

Sam I am very sorry for your loss! I can sympathize with you because I too lost my baby late last year, there too was no heart beat at an ultrasound. I was told I pretty much couldn’t have kids which led to a divorce and 3 years later it happened by pure luck. Every one told me that there was something wrong and that it was better for him to go that way than to be born with difficulties! Either way it is sad and still hurts…time will heal! I can say even though I never met him I will always remember him. My prayers are with you and your family!

Sam I’m so sad and sorry for your loss. My wife has been an OB nurse for 25 years. I’ve heard stories from her work that break your heart. I know your a man of faith, lean on that faith and God will be there for you and your family.
God Bless you,
Matt

Sam,
You are right about God’s plan. Be strong for Johnette, she needs your comforting words.

Keep in touch, letting people know about your loss and getting feedback is good. Writing your thoughts
down is a way to understand how you feel also. If you want to publish thoughts to Stageline readers, I’m sure there would be many who would identify.

Remembering you in our thoughts and prayers,

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Johnette. The healing process has no time lines, just draw close to one another. “Joy comes in the morning”

Brandon and Leeanne

Hi Sam, I am so sorry to hear the sad news. I really wish there was something I could say that would help take the pain away. Please, try to stay very strong for your wife. She needs you now more than ever. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your wife.”

I’m so sorry to hear about the baby. I know it must be really tough for you guys…thank God you have your princess to help you get through it. I hope Jeanette is well.
Our thoughts are with you guys.

“Blessings to you all”

Hello Saman joonam, I’m so sorry for your loss, but please be strong for your wife and be more strong for your self, sometimes as you know god wants to testing us how much we can handle it. I love you very much.

Sam,

Nothing that i’m gonnna say is going to make things better. I’m just glad you are reaching out for help. Time truly does heal all. Your little Angel is with our Good Lord now and rest assured you will see him again. He is in good hands!! For now, pray for strength and continue to commit your life to your family. I will pray for you and your family. I have complete faith that you will get through this!

Brenda and Family

Your little guy is now an angel in heaven waiting to be reunited with you someday. I pray you will find peace and comfort knowing you’ll get to meet him someday.
Peace and love,

Sam, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I am a firm believer that God acts in mysterious ways and has a reason for why this happened. Lisa and I are truly sorry and offer our condolences and prayers to you, your wife and your family. God bless.

Hi
We are so sorry and share in your feelings.
Maybe your unborn son did not need to suffer by going through a life on this world and just went straight to a better place.
I believe in your strength and that the phrase: “What does not kill you, makes your stronger” will apply to you and your wife. Be strong together, love one another with all your might and love your daugther all the stronger. Through it you will re-emerge and escape hell.
Lots of love.
Cecilia

Hi Sam,
I am so sorry to hear that. I’ve gone through it myelf with my second pregnancy and I feel your pain my friend. It is very very tough. But God loves you very much. There was obviously something wrong with the baby and as hard as this is, believe me it is for the best. I always prayed to have healthy kids and I believe that this is every parent’s wish. I was blessed enough to get pregnant right away and have another beautiful and thank God, healthy boy within that year. Just look at your beautiful baby girl and wife and find your comfort in them. We never know why God plans things the way He does, but I truely believe it is for a reason.I am here for you anytime you need talk.
love,
Mel

Sam and wife, you have built a great family and fiend community and so you will continue. Big hug for you both.
Jose

Hi Sam,
My heart feels your pain as my son passed away at age 23. So, I understand what you are going through. I cried, I was angry and I was depressed for a while. I went through all the normal “grieving” stages that we as humans go through when our loved ones are suddenly gone. So, allow yourself to grieve the passing of your son. But, when the grieving process had ran its course and no matter how much I tried to analyze the “why’s” at some point I knew I had to say, “Yes Lord, I trust You. I know you never make mistakes.” I had to reconcile in my heart and mind the things that I “know” and leave the “unknown” to God. What I know is that God loves me so much that he sent his Son to die for me that where He is I will be there with Him for eternity. I know that God loves my Son and my Son in now in Heaven with God. I know that if I believe in Jesus Christ and His salvation that I will be reconciled with my Son one day and it will be for eternity. But, until the day I see my son face to face, I am comforted with the following scriptures that helped heal my hurting heart. I believe that if you meditate on these scriptures that they will help you too. Please meditate on Psalm 23:4, Matthew 5:4, John 11:25-26, John 14:2-3, Romans 6:23, Romans 8:38-39, 2 Corinthians 4:16, 2 Corinthians 5:6-8, 1 John 5:11. Please be comforted knowing that your son is not “lost” but that he is in the arms of God. There will always be an empty hole in your heart for your son – a longing to see and be with him again – and that is where your hope lies – and hope allows you to move on with your life – knowing that one day you will be reunited with your son but this time for eternity. I am praying for God’s love and comfort to envelope You, Your wife, and Family during this difficult time.

Sam–

I know how you feel. It will get better as you focus on your blessings.

There is much love being sent your way.

My prayers are with you and your family.

Sam, I am so sorry about your son. My heart aches for you and your wife. I too lost a baby in my fourth month. I know that my baby is now in the arms of God and waiting for me.
Carolyn Angus

Sam,

Again bro if you need anything, please do not hesitate to ask! We will keep you and your family in our prayers daily….

This is by far the worst news anyone can receive. Working in a Perinatal Center specifically with high risk pregnancies I have seen the anguish a loss of this nature can cause. It sounds cliche, but only time can heal your pain. My condolences go out to you and your wife. Hold on to one another and cherish the blessings you have been granted. My thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless and take care.

I know you a grieving for your family’s loss. You must be strong for your wife and others that are going through this with you. God is ultimately in control.

I am very sorry to hear about your loss, your family are in my prayers.

Oh Sam – I am so sorry for your loss. You may find some magic in this situation over the years. I lost a child in the same way 46 years ago and adopted on born on the same day 40 years ago. God does, indeed, have plans that may seem strange to us. May God bless you both in all ways possible.

“Sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.”

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sam,
when we lost our 9month, in the same manner, my children’s love and closeness was one of the things that was immensely helpfull in dealing with our grief, I spent alot of time comforting my wife, making sure she did not feel that I blamed her or resented her in any way, and of course, I did not want her to fall into post partum, I stayed strong but showed her that I too was suffering the loss. Nothing tooks the sorrow away immediately, only time, and the realisation that God neeed that soul in heaven more, eased the sorrow. The loss of our lil man made our family bond even stronger and i appreciated my other children even more. I guess what I’m trying to tell you is that, I know how you are feeling, and that it will get better in time, the love for your wife and lil princes will overcome the grief, and of course God! Not everyone gets to give back to God the way we have, now you have a lil angel watching over your family and he is with you always!

Our love to your family
from the Penmans!

Sam,

My deepest sympathies to you and your wife. I can’t image the pain and emptiness that this loss has left you feeling.

I wish you, your wife and your family peace and love.

“I have lost a pregnancy, I have lost a sister, I have lost a father. The hurt never completely goes away, however you will always see(identify) the pain in some one’s eyes when they too have felt the tremendous loss of loved ones. Time does not heal all wounds, however, time lets you understand you are not alone and it’s ok to move forward and share your hurt. We are here.”

“I am so sorry about your son. May God comfort you and especially your lovely wife in your sorrow. Someday you will join your baby boy in heaven, like King David did.”

Saman jon:

I just heard the very sad news. Soheila and I as well as Amie and Amir Cyrus feel for you and your entire family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this very sad and difficult time. Please stay well and in touch and let us know if there is anything we can do for you.

Best regards,

Amir Ahanchian and Family

“they told me that 19 years ago with my daughter, I had a resident doctor tell me that during an ultrasound she heard no heartbeat. i WAS DEVISTATED…. she scheduled me to come in the next day for a D and C. BUT Something in my heart told me to go for a second opinion. Sure enough the second opinion came back and there was a heart beat. I DONT know how they got it wrong but I almost got rid of my baby…. I am telling you this story because its worth a second opinion…. my daughter is a beautiful healthy 19 year old today. I KNOW your situation may be differnt but my best wishes to you and your family whatever your case may be.”

I am so sorry to hear that Sam. If there is anything I can do for you do not hasitate!
My heart goes out to you guys…”

“Sam and Famiy,

Sharing love and support to you during this difficult time, hang in there!!

Cynthia

Sorry to hear that Sam. Sending prayers to you and your family.”

dear Sam,as you know heaven is full of little angels,well,yesterday they got one more.

“I lost a daugther due to prematurity. She lived 2 hours in my husbands arms. I was only 4 1/2 months along. We named her Melody Grace and had her creamated. Her littel urn has a special place in our home. My older children never forget to sing her happy birthday. she gets a little tree for christmas and one Halloween my youngest daughter put a princess sticker on her urn so she could be a princess for halloween. Very cute, and very sad. She would have been 6 now, and I still find myself crying, lost and devastated in not having her here. I do not believe in God or any of his plans. I do know the ache I feel that will never ever go away. My heart is with your wife who has had to go trhough this horrible experience. I know how it is to leave the hospital without the little bundle in your arms while seeing other women smiling and leaving with theirs. I used to sit in the nursery we had made for her and rock her in my arms singing to her as I would have if she had lived. “

Sam, , sorry to hear about your terrible lost ,hope your wife is doing good at least health wise,Stay strong god will heal the pain,with time. may lord be always with you and your family.

Hi Sam,

We are very sorry. I don’t understand why things like this happen to such good people. We will keep you and your family in our prayers. Again, we are very sorry.

Dear Sam:

I cannot imaging the pain and sorrow you two are going this day. Our children are the most precious to every parent; there are no words to comfort you or your wife. Yet, God has a plan you may not understand this moment but time is the only thing that can cure are sadness and sorrow. I have a son and a daughter but I remember the passing of their dad and I know it is and undescribe pain and emptiness. I just want to say that God does not give us something that we are not strong enough to cope. I know that you’re going to be strong for you, your wife and that beautiful child that depends in both of you.

May God bless you and bring peace to your hearts.

Vicky

just wanted to email you and say how much you, your wife and little Bailey have been on my mind since yesterday.

I love you guys!!! Hang in there!!!

Dear Sam,

Joe and I were extremely sorry to hear about your loss. Many times we forget how devastating this is for the father as well. I have left Johnette a coulple of messages and wanted you to know that we love you and if you need anything or just need someone to talk to we are here for the both of you!

Sincerely,

Joe and Vikki
P.S. We love you!!!

Hello Sam,
Sorry for your loss. Our prayers go out to you and your wife. We have shared a similar experience when we lost our first baby,the only thing that brought us comfort was truly believing that we would be together again, one day. Thats what got us through the more difficult times. Hope it helps.

Sam,
I am so sorry for your loss. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and know that your right God does have a plan and it will be ok.

“I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. May God comfort you in your time of need!”

I’m so sorry for your loss and pray for strength for your family at this difficult time.”

Sam,
I am really sorry to learn of your loss, sometimes we don’t understand these things because we do not understande the Lord’s plan for us but believe that He has something great planned for your family. Walk by faith and everything will be OK.

Victor

“Mike and I are so sorry to hear about your loss and want you to know that you are in our thoughts and prayers ~”

I am sorry for your loss. It must be very hard for you both. But remember he is in heaven and you have your kids that are alive and well with you. God knows why he does this. If you really want another child then don’t give up and try again.

Right now your wife needs your support and your patience and at the same time your kids need to know that you are both for them also. My prayers go out to you and your family. God Bless you all.

Sincerely

Evelyn

Sam, Johnette and Bailee, Im sooo sorry for your loss. Please be there for each other during these hard times. Know that your friends and family are here to help you and we will always be available if you need to talk. I have faith that God will get you and your family through this. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

Sam,

I’m really sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sorry about your loss. I will have you and your family in my prayers. God bless and hang in there man.

Sam my friend I just noticed that on your fb page. All I can tell you is if there is a time to be grieving and sad it is now. Dont not try to avoid it, it is a normal thing to feel that way when tragedy like this happens.

Take a little break, reflect upon life, take a deep breath and know that you have many people that care about you.

You are one of the very few guys I have not seen in person but I consider good friends. You and I know that you are surrounded by many people that would do things for you when you need it but I want you to know that I am one of them. You really have a big heart.

Many of us believe that everything happens for a reason but when something like this happens you just dont have explanation……but you dont have to have it. God is unimaginable powerful, we can never comprehend his goals and plans because our intelligence and understanding abilities can never reach that level.

Just know that if we have our attitude and mindset right………….after adversity like this there is always something great happens…..we grow personally, spiritually, we become stronger, more resilient, we become wiser, we see the world and life from a different angle…………….and all this my friend is priceless. Not many people get to have understanding of the world, life and be very wise, and find a better meaning of it, only people that have gone through moments like yours, and you are one of they few ones.

You can contact me about anything at any time and count on me

Hristo

Sam,
I am very sorry to hear about your loss. We experienced a loss like this in the past and then we got our “Anisa”. Be strong for your wife as it must be very hard on her too. Take Care Sam.

Sam,

Sorry to hear of your loss. I know what it feels like as I was in the same situation several years ago. Hang in there and know that you and your family are in all of our prayers.

Todd Turner

I am very sorry for your loss. I do not know if you recall that I lost 2 family , one passed in November and the other in March. Although nothing can compare to the loss of your child I know GOD will get you through this, just lean on HIM.

Hey Sam,
I’m devastated too! Thanks for allowing all of us to use this blog to get out our feelings. I had to scroll a long way down before I was able to post my message which means, you and Johnette have a lot of supporters. Of course none of us know why this has happened to you again, and people have given you some good advice especially when it comes to God and Him taking care of your needs.As a nurse who has dealt with many losses, I will say that it seems to help couples when they name the baby and truly allow themselves to grieve. Love each other and never blame.
I love you both and you know I’m close by if you ever neeed anything, just holla!

Sorry to hear about your loss. Hang in there friend.

Sam:
I was heartbroken to here the devastating of news of your precious baby boy. My heart goes out to you and Johnette. There are no words that can take the pain away. Sometimes things happen that just don’t make since to us, but the pain will slowly subside and eventually pass. He will never be forgotten and will always remain in you hearts. I will pray for you and hope that you can find some peace in knowing he is in a good place.

Love to you and Johnette
Debbie J

So sorry to hear this news, Sam. Please know your family is in our prayers.

Sam, I’m sorry for your loss.

Unfortunately, I know exactly what you may be feeling. My husband and I just had that bad experience with our first child a few months ago and it was devastating. What I can tell you is that as the days go by you and your wife will feel better; God will heal your hearts and allow you to smile when you thing about the possibilities.
God has healed our hearts by helping us understand that he is the master of all things and that he has a plan which is sometimes not understandable to us but it is for the best. Just think, what better hands can hold the life of your child that those of the creator of all, the master of our lives, the holder of our future.
God had a better plan for your child than this world; rejoice in his master plan because even though it might hurt you now, in the end, it is He who knows better.
My prayers are with you and your family!

Ariadna

I am so sorry to know about your loss. I know you and Jeanette must be going through a difficult time. You have a big support group with a lot of people who care and love you guys. Thank God for the wonderful relationships you have, and know that everything happens according to God’s plan.
xo
Alejandra

I have never met you but receive your motivating emails….as such, I felt the need to reply to your post….you seem like such a nice man and I am so sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you. Judith

Sam

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your lovely family. Our good Lord has a plan.. and He will bring peace and healing to your heart and your family.

Sincerely,

Eva M.

Sam,

My heart goes out to you and your family, this is such a trying time, but you must be strong for them. God has a special place for your son and he will always be with you in your heart. Keep the faith and your friends and family will be there for you in your time of need.

Yvonne

Sam, I just saw about your loss. I just want to take a moment of your time and tell you I am very sorry. I know this is very devastating for you and your beautiful wife, but please know that God will get you through this. It will take time, but the pain will lessen eventually. The three of you will get through it together.

Dr. Sam,

I am very sorry to hear the news about your son. You have such a great family and a large group of friends who admire you and will stand by your side and be here for you. God bless you and your beautiful family.

Dear Sam,
You have my deepest sympathy and condolences on your loss. You must feel utterly devastated right now and I imagine your wife is inconsolable. I suffered a miscarriage six years ago before I got pregnant with my son Cameron. I was just so immersed in grief and couldn’t get out of it; I even went to counseling for six months to help me deal with my sorrow.
I remember feeling for a long time that I would never recover, but slowly I dwelled less and less on my loss. It helped me that I had a new baby to love and adore. THat’s not the case for you, I know, but maybe your wife will get pregnant again and that new life will be all the more precious to you for the loss you shared.
Kiss and love your wife and your daughter. You will be in my thoughts and I will send every ounce of good will to your family.
Jodi

Hi Sam,
So sorry to hear about your news. I will be praying for your family at this time of need. God has a plan we just don’t understand it at times. Hope to see all of you soon.

Judy

“We are all so sorry to hear the devasting news. You guys are in our thoughts and prayers.”

Dear Sam, My prayers will be with you. I am a Member of Cornerstone Church in Wildomar, Ca. I will call my church Monday and talk to one of my favorite pastors. I will have your wife and family put on the pray request line. I have been going to this church since 2003. Pastor Ron Armstrong son, Ryan was murdered Dec. 2008 in Temecula celebrating a Birthday Celbration at a Sports Bar with another Pastor Son from Riverside & friends. I am so so sorry, Sam. Reading proverbs & psalms has always been comforting, healing, and soothing. God Bless You & your dear family. Blessings, Joy

I have lost a pregnancy, I have lost a sister, I have lost a father. The hurt never completely goes away, however you will always see(identify) the pain in some one’s eyes when they too have felt the tremendous loss of loved ones. Time does not heal all wounds, however, time lets you understand you are not alone and it…’s ok to move forward and share your hurt. We are here.

Dear Sam,
Bill and I are very sorry for the pain you and your family are going through. Our hearts and prayers go out to you.
love
bill and chrissy

Hi Sam!
Sam -
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You have always been a strong person and an inspiring leader for many of us. Although losing someone we love, even if he was not yet born, is painful, always remember that God will comfort us. As a Christian, Psalms 62:8 says “trust in him at all times, O people. Before him pour YOUR heart. God is a refuge for us.” Don’t ever lose that trust, and I know you and your family will be OK. I will keep you in my prayers.

love,

Aileen

Sam,

I’m really sorry to hear about your baby. May the love you feel around you help ease the ache in your heart. My deepest condolences.

Listen brother, you have done a lot for a lot of other people, it’s the least I could do.

As tragic as this is, it too, shall pass. I know its tough ( I can not even comprehend your pain), but you have a beautifull little girl that wants her daddy.

Take care and God Bless,

Dimitri

Dear Sam and Johnette, My thoughts are prayers are with you both and your beautiful princess. As you know God’s plans have been made ahead of time and good things are here for you now and abundance is on the way. My heart hurts for you all and my eyes are filled with tears. God bless you all and be well. I have you in my thoughts and prayers. With Love, Cheryl

You know Sam,

Along with the good you also had the bad (in blog responses).

I just want you to know – there are alot of good people that care!

Today my grandmother is being laid to rest in Costa Rica.

She was 101, and lived a full life.

Life is too short for all of us!

I know she is in a place now, where there is no pain, no injustice and is surrounded by God’s Love.

I hope you know that about your baby too!

Sending our love,

Please let me know if there is anything we can do to help.

Liz

Dear Sam & Johnette,
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I will pray that God will give you strength to endure. Stay strong, and I love you both!!
Pauline

ake care! continue with your head up high and faith strong!!!

Sam, You are a blessed man. You share your life with others and each one you come in contact with you most certainly improve their life. You have to be thankful that God has taken control of your son’s life and has made the choice to take him to heaven very early. Something wasn’t right for him to be born into this world. Don’t stop loving him and continue praising God for his birth into God’s hands and continue being the loving father you always have been at home and the gym. Be obedient to God and when you are chosen to be taken to heaven you will see the most beautiful little boy you can imagine holding his hands out wanting to be held by his wonderful daddy. God bless you and your family.

Sam, I am glad to help. Unfortunately there is not a lot I can do except keep your family in my prayers and be there to listen when you need to talk. Everyone deals with these circumstances differently and in their own way. You and your will also deal with this loss differently from each other. While both parents generally bond with their unborn children, the mother typically has a stronger bond and has a more difficult time handling the loss. If this is the case with you, just be patient with her and help her through it. Time will help, but there will always be that hole in your heart. Hang in there Sam. Let me know if there’s anything I can do.

Roger

Sam,

I am very sorry to hear about your news.

Sincerely,

Jedd

Sam,

We are praying for you and your family.

Big hug,
Liz

Sam-

I was so sad to hear of your loss. You are a very outgoing guy, but I was still surprised that you put that out there the way that you did. You give so much to so many, so I was glad that so many were willing to give back to you in your time of spiritual need. These things don’t have a reason sometimes – it just happens. Something wasn’t going to plan with all of his little building blocks and he just wasn’t ready to make his debut in January. But that little soul knows how much you and Johnette loved him, and he will find you again. Take care, give your family some extra hugs, and take some time to grieve. You are loved by many and their strength and understanding will see you through.

Tara

Sam,

I don’t think the English language is adequate enough to express loss. I think the best I can say is, it gets better over time. Best wishes to you.

In 1901 Mahler wrote an Orchestral song cycle Kindertotelieder (Songs on the Death of Children) Poems by Friedrich Ruckert (about the death of children and the feelings of grieving parents)

English Translation of No. 1

Now will the sun so brightly rise, as if no misfortune had happened during the night! The misfortune happened to me alone! The sun, it shines on everyone! You must not enfold the night with in you. You must immerse it in everlasting light! A little lamp went out in my tent! Hail to the joy-light of the world! (Ruckert lost two of his children in one week, then Mahler lost a child a year or so later. (Poor nutrition, war and shots weren’t fully developed then.)

Best wishes!
Loraine

“George and I are sending our thoughts and prayers your way during this very trying time. We are so sorry to hear about your son and wish there was something we could say or do to make it all better but there are no words to do that can do that. Prayers are going out to you. Peter & George”

Dr. Sam.

I just got back from vacation and read your email. I am so sorry for the both of you.

There is nothing that anyone can say that makes it easier. You are in my thoughts.

Carol

Dear Sam

ALTHOUGH THE WORLD IS FULL OF SUFFERING,
IT IS ALSO FULL OF THE OVERCOMING OF IT.

Suffering comes to all of us…………………………………………………….
Bad things happen.
Life does crazy roller-coaster loop-de-loops
that can knock us off kilter and out of balance.
It doesn’t mean we’ve done something wrong,
or failed in some way or missed the mark.
It simply means that life, with all its wild turns and curves,
is a glorious learning process, a way to teach us
balance and strength and persistance.

When we begin to accept this truth, then we realize,
too, that with every bit of pain life throws at us,
it also gives us the ability to heal.

And while no one gains from our suffering,
the entire world gains from our overcoming,
so in a way, when we choose to heal, we heal the world.

May you always be both unafraid of suffering
for the lesson it teaches and
willing to overcome it
for the gift it gives.

WITH Love

Thank you
Kuldip

My prayers for you and your family Sam.

fred

I just had a chance to read your note of last week and I am saddened to hear of your little one’s loss. Being an older Mother of two (I had my first one when I was 36 ½), I feel your and your wife’s pain in losing your son. May his soul be blessed and know that you now have your own personal angel watching over you. Ironically, a new friend I met a little over a month ago showed me these two tiny footsteps tattooed to her hip-bone/belly area. They represent her son’s footsteps for he, too, was lost when she was 5 months pregnant with him. Many blessings to you and your wife….

It is just a prime example of how the love you share comes back to you in 10 fold. Just keep sharing your love with us and remember that God loves you and we think your pretty special too.

Brant

Glad to hear! God is big, have faith.. He will soon bless you two
again..

Sam & Jonnette:

My heart fell when I read this. I was sadden to hear the news. My blessing and prayers goes out to your family..

It is in His love that we can all find healing. You’re a child of God
and you’re going through the fire for something great that it’s about
to happened. His preparing you for a great mission that you ma glorify
Him in all you do.

You are unique and you gifts are helping thousands of people. Congratulations
for your knowledge!! Stay strong and know that your broken heart it’s being put back
together as I write this words. Blessings to you and family. I am in your corner
if you need someone to talk to. Tu Puedes!!! You Can do it!!!

Hi Sam,

Your email touched my heart today. May the Lord continue to give you His grace as you go through this most difficult time. I think it took a lot of courage for you to reach out to everyone, and I respect you for that. We are all more apt to give out blessings than to ask for help when we need it.

Our prayers continue to be with you and your wife.

Thank you for this email. I think there are lots of wonderful folks out there. The crummy people get all the press.

Blessings,
Jackie

Good Morning Sam,

Me and my wife are expecting our first baby and I just read your devastating news. We are very sorry for your loss and will pray for you and your family. I cannot imagine what you and your wife are going through. Please be strong and God Bless You.

Robert

Hey Sam-

I just spoke with Heidi who told me about your loss. I am very sorry to hear that and want to extend my sincere condolences. Unfortunately in life there are things that happen that make no sense and there is nothing that you can do about it. I know that you and your wife will move on in time and be stronger having lived through this. Take care.

Ricardo

So sorry to hear about ur lost. Ill keep u and ur family in my prayers sam.

Remember what are friends for, even though I don’t get to see you guys that often always think of the positiveness and great support you give to us and our community, hang in there!! Hugs!

Sam, I didn’t respond via email, but my heart was with you. What I have to say to you, I would like to say in person. We do need the support of caring people. Praise God for that. I will see you soon.

That’s so good! Time heals the heart! Big hugs! Xxxooo,

Cheryl

You’re welcome Sam. That’s what friends do – we draw strength from each other. Take care

Don’t loose the faith it takes time, but you will feel better with the realization that all is life!

You and your wife and family will continually be in my prayers. I cant imagine the main you feel, but Im old enough to understand that everything happens for a reason. Foe he puts no more on us than we can bear. Praying daily for you and yours.

P.S.
I saw your comment about you little girl, she is a rel little cutie.

My heart goes out to you and your family. Although I have only met you once, I feel that I have come to know you through your posts and videos. Keep up the great work you are doing. You have shown all of us what is possible in the fitness business and in life.
Best wishes,
Michael

Sam,

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family during this time.

BTW, I tried writing a message on your blog but was unable.

Regards,

Lissette

So sorry for you loss. My family and I will keep you in our prayer. This is a very hard moment, but God had oyer plains for your Baby. Be strong, you have a good support group.

Jack

“Hi, Sam : I have been out of the country for more than 2 months, my husband told me that he keeps receiving your emails and this is how I found out about what happened to you and Johnette. I don’t know if I told you ( I think I told Johnette) that I lost a son almost 16 years ago, He died a few days after birth, and it’s the worst thing that can happen to a family. It’s so sad, and if it makes you feel better, let me tell you that God knows why… You have no idea of how many times during these years I was asking Him why? not why he passed away, but why he let me go through all the pregnancy to finally have a child that would live only 4 days, a child that never opened his eyes, that was attached to tubes and wires that kept him breathing? May be God was good with you, and for some reason you baby stopped breathing, may be mine should have stopped breathing while I wasn’t that much in love with him, you know what I mean? it’s so difficult to express my feelings everytime I think about him, but I’m only trying to feel a little bit better, You have baby Bailee and I know that thinking of her, things really get even more sad, because at this point you were thinking about a little sister, or a little brother, to complete your happiness, and for her not to be alone, but you know what.? Probably the baby wasn’t meant to be born because something was wrong, I don’t know, but you are so strong, and I know you are going to help Johnette in this though time. My thoughts are with you guys. I always remember you,. xoxo”

Sam,
My prayers are with you. Remember you are not alone, you are loved and admired by many. God works in mesterious ways, stay strong, he has not abandoned you.

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. You and Jennette will be in my thoughts and prayers…

PROOF TO LIVE, BUT YOUR AND YOUR WIFE HAD TO STILL HAVE
FAITH. HE HAS A REASON, AND TODAY MORE BIG THEN EVER YOUR FAITH HAS TOBE MORE STRONG THEN EVER. GOD STILL LOVE U.

Hello Sam,

First, I should say that I am not on the computer often, but appreciate receiving all the great information you continue to supply.

It has been years since we have spoken, I met my goals and stopped coming to the gym in June-July 2007. I never looked better. Thanks again!

We were on vacation when the news of your son came through and sadly I didn’t know about it for some time after due to the email being received as junk mail (which I don’t usually check, but luckily I mentioned the news to my husband and he thought to look).

What I would like to share is that we went through the same thing. I hesitate to say “exactly” because each experience is unique. I came to you in 11/05 when our third child, Lauren, was 8 weeks old. Weighing more than I ever have, I knew I needed help. My story is this: On October 1, 2004, our second child, Jaden, passed away in utero at 33 weeks. I went in on Wednesday for a regularly scheduled visit, had had an amino at 18 weeks and everything indicated our son was healthy and everything was going great! Two days later on Friday, 10/1/04, our three year old, Jessica, had a check up with the the doctor. An hour or two after waking while getting us ready for the day, I realized Jaden had not been moving. I remained calm, took Jessica to her visit and when it was over, I had the doctor listen for a heartbeat. His face read gloom and he indicated I should get myself to Kaiser Fontana Labor & Delivery. Jessica fell asleep on the drive over and I prayed for two things: that my unborn son, whose life we had already planned for and wanted so preciously, would be alive and healthy and/or that I would be granted the strength to endure the loss of my child. Sadly but gratefully I received the latter. I know there are no words to take away yours and your family’s pain, but I do know things get better one day at a time. The best advice I received was to make peace with all of it before trying to move on. I did and feel soooooooo blessed.! The day Jaden passed away I knew that we would try again for another child as we never wanted to have an only child. Four months later I was pregnant with Lauren. Today at 43, I still pray we will have one more child and if we are so blessed to have a son it would be wonderful, but due to the nature of my work, I pray always first and foremost for a healthy child.

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Johnett (sorry, I know it’s an unusual spelling) and Bailey. I have no doubt you will be blessed with another child in time.

Sincerely,

Sylvia

I am very very sorry you lost your son Sam. God has blessed you with a beautiful daughter. Rejoice in the gift he has given you and cherish your time with her before she grows up. God has given me a son and I am taking advantage of my time with him. God Bless you !!

Thank you Michael. I truly appreciate your healing comments.

I am so sorry for your loss. About 2 years ago, i had my son and the hospital didn’t get to us in time, and my placenta obrupted and he lost over half of his oxyen. They didn’t get us into surgery ubtil 15 minutes later! I died 3 times on the table and my son was transfered to another hospital where he lived 6 days. I struggle with everday life even thought the lord blessed me with 2 beautiful and healthy girls. I can’t watch tv because anything about a baby in danger or sick or dieing, i can’t do it i cry my eyes out and relive the hell i endured every second from his birth. I can’t really go to the grave site but i try to in rememberance of my baby boy! I am over protective of my girls and live my life in absolute fear,fear of losing them.I don’t know why God took my baby boy home, but i try to remember that he is in heaven. So is your little one!if you ever need anyone to talk to just email me,i have been in your position and always need someone to talk to.
JACQUELYN I will keep u in my prayers