July 31, 2010
As many of you already know I have been hiding out for a week and attending to my wife and little princess after a routine ultrasound on 7/22/10 revealed that my son no longer had a heart beat. We as a family just needed some time to reflect and heal. Today is 7/30/10 and I am writing you this post from Starbucks in Henderson, Nevada. It’s 6:30am and I just got done working out with my friend Justin Blum (one of the top trainers in Las Vegas Area) As a matter of fact if you are in Las Vegas you should definitely call Justin for a workout. He kicked my A** all week. Justin’s phone number is 702-882-6871
Here are 10 Things I learned from this experience:
1. God always has the Master plan. Even though sometimes we don’t understand why some things happen. We can rest assured there is always a reason and only God knows the reason.
2. Society encourages us (especially men) to keep our feelings to ourselves and not talk about our problems and feelings to other people. I am here to tell you that, “That is bulls***.” Communication is the cornerstone of being a human. By communicating we reach out to the universe and get advise and feedback from others that can help us in time of need. All of you reading this post helped me tremendously in my time of need and I want to THANK YOU.
3. When you put yourself out there and ask for help you also open yourself up for criticism. That’s just a fact of life. It’s no different than when you play sports in front of a crowd. Someone always finds something to say about you. If Kobe Bryant has one bad night he will get criticized by a bunch of people who couldn’t make a basket if their life depended on it.
4. Some people are just skeptics and that’s just the way it is. They always think that there is a “hidden agenda” in everything. (my wife used to be like that). I can’t say that I blame them for being like that. In this day and age people are being manipulated on a daily basis and I can see why they think the way they do.
5. You can’t please everybody. If you try to please everybody then you won’t please no body. I mean look at some of the greatest leaders in the world. No matter how great they were, there were always a few who criticized them. Here are some examples: John Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi, and Mahmoud Ahmadinejad.
(OK that last one was to see if you are paying attention, lol, I like Jay Leno’s name for him he calls him Ahmadi “nut job”.) I am slowly getting my sense of humor back.
6. They say that if you have one true friend then you are already ahead of most people. I feel so blessed because I feel like I have over 700 true friends who commented and were there for me in time of need. Every comment felt like a huge hug and I THANK YOU.
7. Some people love you and some people don’t that’s just the way it is. Be yourself and don’t change for anyone. People can always tell a “fake” person vs “genuine” person. Being yourself means that from time to time you are going to pi** somebody off but that’s way better than trying to be someone that you’re not and coming off as a “fake”. Always keep it REAL.
8. When going through tough times don’t sit home and throw a pity party. It’s not healthy at all. I did that for a couple of days and found that I had a terrible attitude towards life and others. Instead I recommend empowerment activities such as yes you guessed it working out, reading, spending time with loved ones and just getting out of the house.
9. When you hurt your emotions become ultra “sensitive” and might prevent you from thinking too clearly. Never act or make decisions when you are in that “state of mind”. It’s OK to ask others for their opinion to guide you through when you are not thinking clearly.
Especially if they “man up” and apologize. No one is perfect and we ALL have made poor judgements. The key is learning from our mistakes and improve ourselves.
Speaking of forgiveness I forgive Isiah B for the comment he made and accept his apology. He showed a lot of character for admitting his wrong and apologizing. See Below
July 26, 2010
After receiving well over 700 comments, texts and Facebook messages from everyone helping me get through the lowest point of my life.
I also received a comment that really bothered me. But before I respond to this comment I wanted to ask for your opinion.
Was I wrong to reach out to my subscribers asking for advice/prayers?
Should I just kept it in and not shared my tragedy with anyone?
Does anyone else think that I used my worst tragedy to help my name and business?
Below is the comment that was made:
From Isiah B,
“I’m very sorry for your loss. However, I’m more sorry that you’d blog about tragedy and send mass emails to people you don’t even know like me. Why the hell do you need to let the world know about your unborn son? How the hell are blog posts going to help you deal with something like this? Only family and god can be of use here, isn’t that obvious? I can’t help but feel like by doing this you’re helping your business and your name. Good god some people. Look! Now your making yourself vulnerable to people like me. I’m not heartless I’m just not fucking buying it.”
Please leave me a comment below and let me know if you agree with Isiah. Do you think that I shouldn’t ask for help and prayers in time of need? Do you think I used this tragedy for personal gain?
I would love to know your thoughts and comments below.
July 22, 2010
Today at 11am we went for a routine ultra sound and found out that our unborn son didn’t have a heart beat. I am just devastated at this point. I know God always has a plan but this is very hard to swallow. I need some time to reflect and recover from this.
Please leave me a comment below and help me deal with this
Hi Dr. Sam,
I am emailing you because I am concerned with my weigh in today.
I am doing a three-month program through you guys.
Here were my past weigh in results:
1) 7/2/10: This was my first weigh in. I was 144lbs and had 29% body fat.
2) 7/9/10: This was my second weigh in. I was 144lbs and had 27.7% body fat. (same weight, but lost body fat) GREAT JOB
3) 7/16/10: Today was my third weigh in. I was 141.6lbs and had 31% body fat. (lost weight, but gained body fat)
I am concerned because I felt like I was making progress. My diet has been really good so far. I have been following your recommendations for nutrition. I am confused as to why I gained so much body fat in one week. My diet did not change from last week. The only difference this week was that I had the flu since Monday evening. My last workout with Alejandra was Monday morning. I had to cancel our session for today due to my illness. I also had to cancel my Turbo Kickboxing class this week. So, could the body fat increase be due to the fact that I miss two workouts? I find that hard to believe since I have been eating right (actually less than usual due to my flu). I just got really discouraged this morning to find out that I gained so much body fat in a week. What did I do wrong? Do you have any recommendations? I am really please with my progress thus far, and I would love to see more great results. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Thank you in advance,
KRISTINE YOUR BODY FAT HAS NOT INCREASED BECAUSE YOU MISSED 2 WORKOUTS!!!! LOL. YOU SEE THE ELECTRICAL IMPEDANCE BODY FAT TEST ACTUALLY TESTS WATER IN YOUR MUSCLES TO CALCULATE BODY FAT. SO WHEN YOU ARE DEHYDRATED BECAUSE YOU ARE SICK YOU HAVE LESS WATER, WHICH IT FALSELY MAKES THE MACHINE THINK THAT YOU HAVE LESS MUSCLE THEREFORE MORE BODY FAT.
ONLY THING YOU SHOULD DO IS REST REHYDRATE YOUR BODY AND STAY AWAY FROM THE HEAT TODAY. I ALSO ENCOURAGE YOU TO TAKE A GOOD MULTIVITAMIN MINERAL SUPPLEMENT LIKE PROGRADE AND DRINK GATORADE ZERO(THE ONE WITHOUT CALORIES)
KRISTINE GET WELL AND DON’T WORRY YOU WILL NEVER GAIN THAT MUCH FAT IN A WEEK. YOU ARE JUST DEHYDRATED AS YOU CAN SEE BY YOUR SUDDEN WEIGHT REDUCTION.
LET ME KNOW IF I CAN ANSWER ANY FURTHER QUESTION
Hi Dr. Sam,
Thank you so much for you reply! I was starting to get upset at myself for my weigh in today. Thanks for reassuring me that I am on track! I really appreciate everything you guys have done for me. I am very happy with my results thus far and cannot wait to see what I will have accomplish at the end of this program. Thanks again!
Kristine “I am on my way to my pre-pregnancy weight!”
On Fri, Jul 16, 2010 at 10:13 AM, Sam Bakhtiar <email@example.com<mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org>> wrote:
Great question Kristine. You answered the question yourself.
“If you can DREAM it, you can DO it”
Again & as always having a blast sharing with allof you!
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